How to get husband out of the rut

I would tell him that you just cannot continue in this way, it’s draining for you .... so if he is not prepared to up his game, say you will pay to get help in, even if it’s a cleaner. He won’t change unless you gently nudge him to do so !

He is only young to be a couch potato. There’s nothing wrong with his legs, his heart, his breathing. A mended broken bone? He doesn’t perhaps realise how fortunate he is.

Sounds like he’s gotten (sorry, I like the word) into a rut. Become lazy.

Instead of chores/repairs why not try to get out and about for walks and some fun? A pub lunch, the cinema?

A tricky on OP. Can anybody "make" a person do something/change?

Possibly a kind but firm chat with him about your concerns, suggest some activities and leave it for a week or so. I wonder what the pay off for him is in being less active?

My OH has always been one to stay at home rather than go out and socialise - ironically when I did manage to persuade him out he would have a great time; but I stopped trying to persuade him on the end - it was just too much hassle. Now he is immobile; but will not let any of us take him out in is wheelchair.

Good advice from Pantglas
My DH had serious health problems and surgery a couple of years ago, he took ages to recover, and not just physically.
I had to ‘lead’ in all that we did to get him out of that rut.
Illness/surgery affects men more than women IMHO, as they perceive it as a weakness, which then affects them in all sorts of ways.

63 is no age and if he's not in pain then he should be doing his share.
Pantglas has a good solution or similarly ask him X and Y need doing, which are you going to do ?
Or say "If you help me do XY we can then ( what ever it is he enjoys, other than slobbing in front of TV) which sounds like bargaining with a child but you get the idea.

I don't hold with bargaining over bedtime activities that's a slippery slope.

I’ve had something similar with my DH in the past following his ops but not with practical stuff more with sociAlising, which he wasn’t interested in.

My solution was to ask him which of two things would we do first - this made it clear that stuff was going to be done and his choice on the order! I sometimes think men who had bossy mothers (as mine did) quite like, or at least are used to, having a wife in the same vein!

If he is fit enough for bedroom activity, he is fit enough for other things. How about making a bargain with him?