Son, 31. About once a year he has a depressive/anxiety episode.
It happened again today...get text from him saying he is off work, has seen doctor, has 2 week sick note for depression/anxiety.
Same thing happened last year, and the year before, and possibly for the few years previous to that as well. BUT he brings it on himself...drinks too much for a sustained period...borrows money of payday lenders to fund his drinking sessions, then it all gets on top of him.
The last couple of years we have bailed him out financially but I am feeling we can’t do this again as he will keep expecting us to do it if he gets in a pickle of his own making.
He has a decent job but does not earn as much as his friends. Although he lives close to us, he rents a flat as we will not have him living at home because he is unappreciative of what we do for him and when he goes out and gets drunk he frequently leaves front door open....and frankly I don’t want a drunk in my house.
Apart from work and drinking with his pals he does little else.
The doctor will not give him medication but just a sick note.
All this I learnt through text messaging today, he is coming round later for a chat. Seems to do the same thing every year but not change anything in his life. He will stop drinking short term but we all know it will creep back in.
He’s been invited to alcohol abuse sessions but will not go.
I’m at a loss as to what I can do or say to change things.
Appreciate any advice.
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