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How to say you don't want to renew friendship?

(58 Posts)
Oopsminty Mon 04-Nov-19 15:34:41

I think you need to tell them. Tell them what you've told us. Write them a letter maybe.

Don't ghost them though. That's infuriating and could possibly make him more determined

EllanVannin Mon 04-Nov-19 15:31:02

Just have your coat on ready if it's them at the door .
I do that if Jehova's Witnesses appear.

Bridgeit Mon 04-Nov-19 15:07:22

Stop replying, a little harsh but sometimes necessary, best wishes

NotSpaghetti Mon 04-Nov-19 14:24:20

We had someone years ago who was thick skinned and insistent. I just said “no, I really don’t want to thanks” and if pushed “why” said “sorry, I don’t want to talk about it”, or “I feel that it’s not for me” or similar. Something that can’t be argued with. And if challenged said “ I can’t help the way I feel, I’m sorry, the answer is still no”.
After maybe 3 or 4 attempts they gave up.
Once you give a reason, thick-skinned people will have a counter-one.

grannyactivist Mon 04-Nov-19 14:16:34

I understand your dilemma and personally I think the trick is simply to continue to be unavailable: block his number and if he contacts you in other ways simply say it's not a good time and that you will contact him when it's convenient.

Fiachna50 Mon 04-Nov-19 14:16:10

Just keep saying it's not a good time. Be unavailable, leave texts, calls, emails unanswered.If your doorbell goes,have a peek, if it's them don't answer. If they turn up at your door say " oh, Im sorry Im just heading out to an appointment, meeting with ..... " . If it gets really bad tell them you are going on a long holiday.

sodapop Mon 04-Nov-19 14:13:12

Don't think there is such a thing mosaicwarts It will be kinder in there long term to be honest with the person concerned and say you have moved on now.
Cruel to be kind comes to mind.

mosaicwarts Mon 04-Nov-19 14:04:09

I'm in a situation where someone from the past that my late husband and I befriended and unfortunately found to be insincere and frankly a user, has reappeared after many years of absence.

I don't want to reconnect with this person, but don't know how to say it nicely. They are very thick skinned and not taking the hint from 'not a good time'. Any tips on nice rejections?