Would love to find a partner

Do you know, this absolutely disgusts me.....can you imagine if the tables were turned and men spoke about women like this?

Or people in same sex relationships spoke like this?

Men are not after sex/ a carer. What a horrible sexist attitude.

They would all expect that kind of thing.

I have only just seen this.

I agree 100% with Hillwalker.

@Gaunt47 - this has happened to me recently too. And I'm a lot older, but keep going, and cooking.
There are several 'old boys' on the ex-council estate where we live whose wives have died, living alone.
One of them has made 'approaches'. But one's enough .
And TG my husband is still here.

Have known several people who have very good relationships through online dating and also one that didn’t turn out so well.

It’s all more complicated now as we are all probably more wary than we were in the 60s/70s. A good piece of advice is to be aware of how a date treats other people. If they are pleasant and polite to the waiter, the shop assistant etc then they will be the same with you hopefully. If they are rude and bullying to others, be wary because that’s probably how they will be with you in years to come. Another good indicator is how they treat or speak about their mother.

I feel both depressed and nauseous reading Hillwalker70's post.

@hillwalker70. I am so very sorry that you clearly have had some very bad experiences in your life. Thankfully most women I know enjoy their relationships or they simply wouldn't put up with them.

O.P. Having tried OLD (on line dating) and subsequently met a few men for one date I eventually met my present OH. Life is very much better for me (and him) as a result so I recommend it.
My only shock was meeting a Church of Scotland minister for coffee who told me that he was married to another Church of Scotland minister and trapped as they had a Down's Syndrome child. He was looking for a mistress!

Never thought I would have seen the day when I had to give a minister a lecture on morals.

That's the big downside to it! Having looked after a poorly husband for years, then lost and grieved over him, I wouldn't want to go through that ever again. I was still young and had the kids, good friends and my career too. It must be so much worse when you're elderly yourself.

I think that could be true Gaunt, some have been used to being looked after and just can't cope on their own.

It's not just sex, a lot of men in their 70s are looking for women in their 60s so that they can be looked after in their declining years. I'm convinced of it having been approached a few times recently. I look at least 10 years younger than I actually am, so I have to quickly work into the conversation "when I retired 13 years ago". Then bless them they fade away. Result

That is very sad, hillwalker poor you.

Maggie my suggestion would be what others have said - join some groups of interest and you will meet some like minded people, rather than going online.
That being said, a friend did find someone online after her DC signed her up (and kept an eye on who she met!) and she met a lovely man who was a wonderful companion for years until he died. They each kept their own homes but had holidays, trips out and he was welcomed by her family and group of friends who can now share her happy memories of him.

Good luck

/Hillwalker If your description at 6.30 is a portrayal of your own experience of male-female relationships, then I feel sorry for you.

most mem just want sex

Utter rubbish.

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Hi Maggie, this might sound too obvious, but have you mentioned this to friends and acquaintances? There could be a nice colleague or relative in the background that they know is a similar situation. Recently I played Cupid when a chance conversation at work revealed a nice workmate was interested in having a relationship. I’d been hearing about my lovely hairdresser’s disastrous internet dates and cautiously suggested they both meet up. It could have been an embarrassing mistake but as I knew them both well I felt confident that they would at least like each other. They did! Six months on they’re now totally loved up and really enjoying life as a couple

Well that’s relationships dealt with Hillwalker - but did it have to be so crudely expressed?
I can only assume a degree of disillusionment or bitterness in your own experience.
(If that is “gently” I wonder what “robust” looks like.)

What a deeply unpleasant and unnecessary post hillwalker
Most posters are trying to be helpful and supportive.

Have you thought about a singles holiday MaggieTulliver? I have two friends both of whom met their second husbands on singles holidays. One had used internet dating with no success. The friend who has just married, is with someone who has a completely different background and interests. They would never have been matched by the internet route but they adore each other, probably because of their differences. Also know a recently married couple in their sixties who met via a walking group.

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MaggieTulliver I don't blame you for thinking about wanting a life partner in your life.

After a year or two (recovering from a divorce) I decided being single wasn't for me. Eventually I put my nose into the internet world of dating and friendship sites.

I found the most useful one was a friendship website and through it I found love. I've remarried and am so happy.

If life gives you a second chance - grab it!

A widowed friend of mine was determined to find a new partner and after meeting many unsuitable men online she finally found the right one and they have been happily living together for a few years now. I was widowed 30 years ago, in my thirties, and had a wonderful husband. I always thought I would meet someone else as I was so young, but I'm still single and quite content now. I had one serious relationship with someone who turned out to be a narcissist and broke my heart and I just thought never again. I miss being able to do the spontaneous things that happen when you're in a couple, and get frustrated that as a single you're often not invited to 'couply' things, but the positives of being on my own far outway the negatives now. I think if you are determined to meet someone, and make it your mission, you will be successful. I have tried internet dating in the past but found it quite daunting. It's such a shame that dating has become so difficult, I know that young people struggle too.
Good luck - hope you find someone who adds something special to your life.

My ideal would be a special someone who lives next door, so you have your own space. Although Helena Bonham Carter did that, and it didn’t work out. Maybe someone just a couple times a week?

I am in exactly the same position - same age and same time on my own. I feel exactly as you do - if it works, do post how you did it!!

When I split from my ex husband in 2004 I tried online dating sites. I came across lots of sleazy people who were clearly only after one thing and in the end I stopped looking. There was one decent guy who wanted to meet up but I hesitated. When I decided to go for it and suggested a meet he'd met someone else so said it wouldn't be right - the one that got away!
I've now realised like many other posters that I like the freedom of being single, especially now my adult children have both left home. They both live a long way away and though I love it when they come to visit, after a short while I miss my own space so I'm content as I am. I'd have to fall head over heels in love with someone to give that up.
My mum was a widow for longer than she was happily married (24 years) as my dad died in his fifties. She always said she probably wouldn't marry again as she'd never find anyone as good as him. She lived as a widow for another 36 years. She had a busy life, did a lot of volunteering and was a member of U3A and a church. I don't think she was lonely - if she was she didn't complain. Like her I have many friends, mostly through my church, from volunteering and from singing in a choir. Most of the single men I meet are much younger than me (I'm 65) so I don't really expect to find Mr Right but I have a male friend who is good company and will help with jobs in the garden if I ask. We go to quiz nights occasionally and generally have a laugh together but it would never develop into anything more.
I think when the last child moves out the empty nest thing can hit a bit, but better to be alone than with the wrong man. I had been dreading that stage when I was still married as I realised we had very little to say to each other apart from stuff about the kids. In the end he traded me in for a younger model before the kids left which was probably for the best. Once I got over the shock it was a relief to not have to keep trying to make things work.
If you want companionship by all means give it a go but life on your own can be perfectly fulfilling and the freedom would be hard to give up for me.

I am on my 2nd marriage, married in our 50's but we friends for many many years. If I was ever on key own now I wouldn't touch online dating| I would be happy on my own or hope to meet someone through an interest. Today I was out Mr B cycling, we stopped at a bikers cafe for cake and coffee, he then went off for a short while to look at bikes and 4 older men came in on a day out, we got talking and they invited me to join them on their bike ride. This has happened before and I think its the way to go if you are looking for friends or more from the op[osite sex. Maybe dancing ..Le Roc.. could be a pathway.