Would love to find a partner

I would join a few clubs and meet some people face to face , rather meet someone online . In this day and age you just don't know who you might meet on the internet . You know the saying you always find love ,when you're not looking for it . Good luck .

After the kids' dad left 20 years ago, I had a seven year relationships with a man I met on veggiedate (dating site for vegetarians) We both had kids, agreed that they came first and eventually broke up because he felt we "weren't going anywhere". He wanted to get married but neither of us wanted to uproot our kids. I met a second man on the same site but that quickly went down the drain as he was very argumentative and was not able to let go of the smallest things - eg., how to shelve boxes in the garage, whether to have the ice maker arm up in the freezer and so on. It was awful.

I haven't had a date since then, over 13 years ago. I would like to have someone to love and share time with, as well, but it doesn't seem worth the stress and heartache. I've been too long the mistress of my own home, decisions, etc. I agree with the posters who've suggested going out to a meetup, class or whatever. They are places to connect with others and socialize at the very least.

I was actually going to post about my own issues with this stuff but am still working up the nerve. Bless you MaggieTulliver and best of luck.

Hi Maggie
Yes you should be proactive, unless you do, nothing will change.
You don't only have to use dating sites, why not join a bowling club.
My hubby goes to one,(not passing him on I wouldn't do that to you) there a mix bunch mostly go for the social life and many have partnered up he tells me.
His club even go away for a few days together once a year.

Other than that there are so many groups you could join, just find something you'd love to do.
I'm sure there is someone out there just waiting to meet you.
Best of luck

I was going to offer you my OH too Maggie, but I wouldn`t really wish him on anyone!

Well that’s good to hear Henetha, probably in 20 years I’ll be the same...

That's lovely of you, Maggie. I've got used to being on my own now and am ok most of the time, -
but just now and then.......

Oh Henetha, thank you! I do hope you have joy in your life x

62 seems so young to me, and there is every chance you could meet someone lovely, so go for it, and good luck.
At 82, I've given up hoping.

“Miss the cuddles a price I’ve paid for peace”, that’s beautifully put BlueBelle. I do appreciate the benefits of not being partnered up of course, just that I think I’d like to have one more go. I do have a dog and cat and a busy job but feel that something’s missing.....

I would join some groups and enjoy company there, at least then you can go home and do what you like. I am very sceptical about dating websites, although there have been some good results, there have been many scams. I would get a dog or a cat for company. Whatever you decide I hope it works for you.

I agree with BlueBelle. Unfortunately, as we age the men tend to go first, leaving those that are left who are single, somewhat in demand. In addition, there is the REASON they are single. A lot of them are single because for one reason or another they're not good partners. Consequently, there is a fair amount of playing the field and unreliable behaviour.

I've tried dating a couple of times since my marriage broke down. The first time, in my 40's, I had a pick of men (none of whom worked out) because I was significantly younger than them. The second time, early 50's, was very different. Because I was then perceived as 'older', men my age were less interested. AND unreliable. I arranged dates, got stood up. Those who were interested were not really interested in LTR, more in casual sex or a friends with benefits arrangement, neither of which I was up for.

So tread carefully. It's hard enough being messed around and hurt when we're young and there are 'plenty of fish' but in our elderly years, I see it as unnecessary angst.

BlueBelle, I had two happy marriages and yet still I felt somewhat held back by them. I think I'm just too selfish now to risk it again. I have fond memories, though, of flings with no commitment - so maybe I should look for more?

hetty that’s me too but good luck to Maggi
sad but the men I ve been attached to have caused me too much heartache to ever want to try again I feel whole now although as hetty says of course you miss the cuddles a price I’ve paid for peace

Maggie - I was tempted to say that you could have mine! However, I will say that we have friends who were both widowed and met thru a newspaper ad and have been happily married for 14 years. Both say it is better the second time around. So I would say, go for it.

Don’t give up on the idea of dating sites but be careful not to believe everything any one says.
My D joined one and met some very strange men and true to the tales told some only wanted sex and some only wanted money.
She did however meet about three very nice men who just wanted outings etc which may lead to a relationship.
My D doesn’t want marriage, she has two C still at home , both young adults but more important to her than a man.
She is on her own again now as the last one became long distance and fizzled out.
Good luck with your search, I wish you much happiness in your future.

After two marriages and twenty-odd years as a single I wouldn't want to be in a 'pair' situation again. Although I miss the love and companionship, I really value all the advantages of being entirely my own person.

I don't have to always consider the other person or compromise and I'm free to make my own decisions. I still like the idea of it - but the reality would be restricting!

Thank you ladies for your encouragement. Sodapop your story is very inspiring! I do get out and meet people but available men of my age seem to be thin on the ground!

MaggieT. Of course you should give it a go , at 62 you still have a lot of life and love to to give to the right person , why should you spend your days alone , when you could have someone to share your life with, it's never to late , I haveacouple of friends who have found love on dating sites and are having a wonderful time , holidays, shows , just going out for coffee ,
Just be careful who you pick and I hope you find that wonderful person to share your life with, Good Luck ,

I was in the same position as you at just about the same age MaggieTulliver I didn't think I wanted to have another partner after 10 years alone but I got out there and net my second husband. We have been happily married now for over 12 years. We met via an ad in a local paper as internet dating was in its infancy then. I would agree withgrapefruitpip get out and about and meet people with similar interests. Good luck.

Maggie, I would be open to offers of friendship and see how that goes first. Try to get out and about a bit and meet people.