Agony aunt.

Yes life is difficult sometimeskircubbin and it's really hard when asked for advice about such a delicate matter.

Your suggestion was a good one, a nice card might be better than a text message, then your friend will need to wait and see if her D responds. I do hope so.

I don’t know the details but it might be best to send a card or even flowers. She might have to say she is sorry even if she feels they are wrong just to keep things calm. She must do something otherwise it will go on for ever. I’m not really sure in a situation like this people ever do put things behind them.
I’ve an aunt who was spiteful to me . I did not make things worse by not speaking to her but I have never forgotten what she said to upset me and I don’t trust her not to do it again, I think your friends daughters might feel like me.