Marital breakdown

Although very very sad when relationships break down and come to an end it’s for them to sort out very hard if children are part of a family unit, but best not to take sides, unless you are in the situation yourself you won’t know all the facts, so sorry to hear about your husbands illness

Good advice from GrannySomerset we don't always like what our children do and that's difficult. Support your daughter in law and granddaughter as well especially as there is no mother to help her. Good luck, its a very trying time I know.

Thank you for your considered responses.

We have been in a similar position with our DS walking away from a 20 year marriage. Nearly two years down the line the divorce is through, they are co-parenting pretty well ( and he is a much better father than he was before) and we have a good relationship with DS, exDiL and DS’s new partner. The children seem to be coping well and both parents are happier.

So hang on in there, listen to everyone without taking sides, and things may look better. Of course you are disappointed in your DS, as we were, but nobody knows the inside of another marriage, and both can behave with some generosity then there is hope for the future.

The advice not to take sides is wise - but sometimes hard to do. If they get back together you need to be in speaking terms with both.

It is especially hard when your own AC is the "guilty" party. Hard not to feel disappointed in him. I feel for you.

Try not to get involved and don't take sides Gelisajams It is their problem to sort out and should not keep you awake trying to sort it because...you can't!

He isn't the first and won't be the last! Support, sympathise, be there for either but keep out of it.