Just clinging on?

It all sounds fairly normal, you just need to make sure you have your own interests and if they mean you are not always available to cook etc he will have to learn to adjust! Also perhaps a bit of organising to make sure you do something together each week. You could check it is only old man's grumpiness and not a particular worry. Good luck

Thanks for voicing frustrations very similar to my own. Going to join another exercise class so have something to do and be sociable at same time
Good Luck to us all

Thank you for taking the time to reply, Liz and Suzied, feeling much more positive this am. Of course it's up to me to make my own life work for me. Just having a wobble and wishing things were different, as we all do occasionally, I'm sure. Lovely to know there's a place where us girls can have a chat and get support, when needed!

Do you have your own friends? For instance I am going out for lunch today with a lady who I met at work about 40 years ago. Next week it will be lunch with friends I met at a differnt job about 30 years ago. Knit and natter group etc. Book club at the library. Have a think about it and make your own life busy and stop fitting in around him.

Does he take his turn at cooking dinner and cleaning?

Don’t let yourself be treated like a housekeeper- talk to him- do you go out together as a couple? Cinema? Theatre? Holidays? Why not get your own hobby or get out of the house with friends or family?