Gone off sex after bereavement and cancer

You need to talk to him, and be prepared to pleasure each other in other ways than penetrative sex. Having a sense of humour and having a giggle always helps I find!

He sounds a lovely chap, you are a lucky lady.

You've been under a lot of stress lately. That can affect the libido. Hopefully this is just a blip.

I struggle with the idea of either partner having to tolerate sex to appease the other.

MissAdventure, I suppose I believe compromise is part of any relationship. This is the first time in my life I have ‘tolerated’ sex!

Someone I knew who had gone off sex went, with her husband to 'Relate', where she was told to lie back and think of England, in so many words.

So yes, I suppose compromise is the best way to keep both happy.

Testosterone works for some women. Why not discuss it with your GP?
Men get Viagra or Cialis prescribed on the NHS.

Women often go off sex in later life. Men never seem to, but should accept that love and company are enough.

Esspee, apart from my cancer hormone medication, which has a big effect, I think it’s my brain (apparently the biggest sex organ), conflicting emotions and low spirits/mild depression.

Lie back is best if you don't wa t to lose him.He probably won't notice anyway.

You didn't mention how recent your cancer was, but there is nothing odd in losing interest in sex following a serious illness, or indeed any major upheaval.

I lost interest while my sister was dying, but have regained it after the worst of my grieving for her is over.

Guilt is a feeling that does no good at all. Most of us can feel guilty without any real grounds. Perhaps you need help dealing with whatever it is you feel guilty about.

Hope you too find this lack of interest is just temporary.

I'm pretty sure it's the hormone treatment that's the culprit.

My daughter had more trouble with having her hormones manipulated by meds than she did with the chemo or surgeries.