Husband told adult daughter he loves her

My late DH could not show his feeling for me in words.
His actions and what he would do for his diva of a wife showed more than words ever could.

all hell

Oh God! I know what you mean. I remember my DH went on a business trip to France once, and had the gall to tell me he had presented the hotel receptionist with a red rose. As he had never done anything that romantic towards me, all he'll let loose.

Suppose it's different with a daughter though. Of course he loves her. And people do tend to tack that on the end of phone calls these days.

After many years of marriage, my mother (I have the story from her) asked my father if he loved her, as he never said so.

Daddy's reply, "I said I loved you when I asked you to marry me. If I had changed my mind, I would have told you."

My mother didn't find the answer very satisfactory. I asked her what she had expected after 40 years of marriage.

Gosh if you don’t know he loves you without words after 49 years there’s a big problem if this has bothered you you should have asked him 48/9 years ago
We weren’t a family to be saying it all the time but my mum and dad knew I loved them by my actions and I knew they loved me
many people say it automatically .... ‘love you‘ and obviously there’s no depth to it
I don’t mean to sound harsh but in answer to your question ‘yes you are being silly’ but is there something else going on that is making you feel so insecure have a good think as after all those years together this isn’t the way to feel over a couple of words

He may well find it embarrassing to say it to your face some men are like that .
I bet he doesn`t say it to her face.
I would tell him you love him and see what he says.

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It really is so difficult to say these kind of things if it doesn't come naturally.

Please don't think that its the love that's missing, just the ability to put it into words.

That's just knocked me sideways, too, although you have to admire him for his honesty.

Did they stay together?

Thank you for all your replies. His father was the same. Even when he was dying he never told his wife he loved her. I know that communication is a big problem in our relationship but he is a good companion which is important to me.

You might want to ask him, why not, but many years ago a friend asked her husband if he loved her, they were young and in love (or so she thought), and was knocked sideways when he answered ‘as a matter of fact I don’t think I do’.
I am sure this won’t be the same with you of course, but it’s not what my poor friend was expecting.

I would tell my daughter I loved her, more than I told my mum or anyone else.

Simply because my daughter was far more likely to say it to me. I'm not naturally a person to say it; it wouldn't really occur to me.

Maybe he finds it easier to say in a phone call, would he have said that to her face to face?
Some men don't like to show their feelings or find it hard to face to face

Do you tell him you love and care for him I wonder ? my husband and I told each other every day one way or another,when going out we would always say "see you later love you" on going out the door,he called this the very last time he spoke to me on the day he sadly died.
Talk to him and get things put in order before its too late.

You need to talk to him. How on earth did you ever get together if you never told each other you love each other? Say it now, before it's too late.

Have you told your husband that you love him?
Perhaps he shows his love in other ways? Is he a kind and generous man?