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DH didn't even notice I had gone out !!

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Lilypops Wed 29-Jan-20 08:48:37

We had a rather heated argument yesterday,, nothing serious just over some new wardrobes I wanted, he said we don't need them ,and so it went on , He went off in a huff upstairs and I thought right and I went for a long walk to cool off, I was gone at least an hour and it was b::::y freezing but I thought "I,ll show him ". I came back expecting him to say oh I was worried about you ,where have you been my love !! He hadn't even noticed I had gone out. So that was a waste of time wasn't it, I just had to share it as I thought it was funny afterwards,, Honestly. Men ,, We have made up now by the way. ,

Lilypops Fri 31-Jan-20 11:19:02

Grammaretto, I did wonder about just getting the wardrobes , but I would have to ask him for help fitting them ' then he would notice,
I love the fact that my post resonated with so many of you, they all made me laugh and made me feel that men are just men , they can't help it !!

Grammaretto Thu 30-Jan-20 18:14:40

I hope you just buy the wardrobes Lilypops. He won't even notice!

Pinkrinse Thu 30-Jan-20 16:54:47

Loved your post. On Sunday cold day, I was drying the dog outside and my back went. Managed eventually to lie on my back but couldn’t get up. My husband came out and the first thing he said was “do you want a cup of tea” I wonder how long I’d have stayed there before he noticed! His second comment was I thought you were looking at something in the sky. It’s January and cold.

timetogo2016 Thu 30-Jan-20 08:39:21

He did notice you were gone but didn`t want you to know it.
They never really grow up and I think that`s what we like about them hahaha.

Grandma2213 Thu 30-Jan-20 02:24:51

After complaining about how hard it was to cut the considerable amount of grass we had on our corner plot when I was heavily pregnant my (ex) husband bought me long handled shears so I didn't have to bend down.

Auntieflo Wed 29-Jan-20 22:41:18

Lilypops, DH and I have been out today and during the afternoon, we went looking at wardrobes.
If we change them, I only really want sliding doors, to replace the doors on our fitted wardrobes.
Perhaps we should search together. Mind you I may probably change my mind tomorrow ?

grannyrebel7 Wed 29-Jan-20 21:40:11

My DH and I have always had a volatile relationship. We'll be fine for months and then something will happen and all hell breaks loose. We're both stubborn and fail to see each other's point of view. It's usually over something trivial which then escalates. We've been like this for almost 43 years. How we've lasted God only knows! Anyway we decided this New Year that we're not doing it anymore and so far so good 28 days in and no arguments! Wish us luck GNers smile

mokryna Wed 29-Jan-20 20:14:01

My neighbour during one winter had to struggle to get her old car up the steep drive every day, her husband said she didn’t need a new one. However, when his had to use hers for a week, as his had to be repaired, guess what happened. Who got her new car.

welbeck Wed 29-Jan-20 19:26:12

but do you really need new wardrobes ?

hollysteers Wed 29-Jan-20 18:40:30

Thanks for the laugh out loud comments! Absolutely brilliant.
In my teens, my best friend’s mother told me that her husband, who was away at sea for months, came home after a long trip on a summer’s day, walked through the front door, looked at his son on the couch with measles and out into the garden, where he started gardening without a word to anyone.

MadeInYorkshire Wed 29-Jan-20 18:05:13

Thanks all for making me smile! wink

annemarg Wed 29-Jan-20 16:02:25

On holiday in Florence our group were taken to the main square and we visited various churches, etc. At one point I left the group (I'm sure I told him I was going) and went across the square to take photos at an Italian wedding which was taking place. When I went back to where I had left the group they were nowhere to be seen, and neither was he! Obviously he didn't even notice I was missing!!! It was pretty scary as I didn't even know where the coach had been parked and the Italian policeman wasn't able to help. Anyway, to cut a long story short, I eventually walked across the square and started walking up a side street when, wonder of wonders, there he was coming the other way to look for me! I was so pleased to see him I couldn't be angry. I've never let him forget it though!

Jodieb Wed 29-Jan-20 15:39:01

Ruddy men! They never want anything new do they? We are always having 'debates' on things for the house and garden then we end up not changing anything.

Lilypops Wed 29-Jan-20 15:36:51

Thank you ladies for your lovely, funny comments , I am still living in hope I get my wardrobes, I think i will resort to plan B to get what I want , it usually works !!!! ? He he

POGS Wed 29-Jan-20 15:36:45

Lilypops

If it's any consolation my hubby would not have missed me either, only if he shouted up to me to switch the central heating probably.

Nice thread.

Jani31 Wed 29-Jan-20 15:04:18

Peoples comments made me laugh. Thank you all for a good laugh x

craftergran Wed 29-Jan-20 14:50:30

He'd have noticed if he fancied a cup of tea

kircubbin2000 Wed 29-Jan-20 14:27:17

Arriving in London for the first time to spend the day we argued about what we should do first.A tour bus was passing so he jumped on and shouted see you here at 4.00. I was afraid of not finding this meetinģ point in a strange city so I had my hair done and waited in a nearby hotel.We were never on the same wavelength.

Bossyrossy Wed 29-Jan-20 13:49:45

My husband shaved his beard off one day and we sat watching TV all evening and I didn’t notice.

Keeper1 Wed 29-Jan-20 13:43:37

A few days after an argument my then husband said, “I suppose you realised I haven’t been speaking to you?”

I hadn’t not at all maybe that’s why he is an ex?

ReadyMeals Wed 29-Jan-20 13:03:13

I can't seem to stop my husband noticing when I go out these days not even when he is out. You see we have installed smart home cameras and doorbell and he gets notified every time there is action by the front door or in the back garden! It's really creepy when he asks "Is it nice out?"

ALANaV Wed 29-Jan-20 12:55:00

Ha ha ...I can relate to that .. I flew back to the UK and phoned my husband when I arrived ...he said ? I thought you were in the garage ……..say no more !

moggie57 Wed 29-Jan-20 12:27:06

Wheres my tea? Oh the wife has gone out damn and blast it .lol

Mbra12 Wed 29-Jan-20 12:23:05

One xmas eve my husband did not come home early as he said he would and that could only mean one thing. He was out ‘just having a quick one’. Why this surprised me I will never know as it happened every year. I was furious having spent the day with three kids cleaning the house ready for the next day and for a guest who was coming. I packed us all up and we went to a local cafe and had our dinner there. We came home as he arrived expecting everything to be sunshine. He was so cross that we had gone without him. This could have developed into a big argument but our guest arrived and they settled on a Chinese takeaway. Now that we are retired he helps with the housework and was moaning about it on xmas eve. I reminded him that I used todo it all on my own and then he would come home tiddly and expect me to be full of the joys of xmas. I am hoping that maybe he was beginning to understand ..........

Fleursgranny Wed 29-Jan-20 11:58:54

Frank Skinner has a gag about how marital arguments are like concerts by the good old band - they start with the new stuff but end up playing the old favourites. Or is that just us?