Hello ladies,
Just wondered what you think of this situation.
I am an only child. My mum is 90 and lives 250 miles away.
A very difficult lady, fiercely independent, has done all her own bills, banking, grocery shopping ( but agreed to Tesco deliveries during lockdown)
Alienated her (few) relatives
Rude/indifferent to neighbours
NO friends
NO visitors of any sort
I used to visit every 5/6 weeks - any oftener causing irritation along the lines of, “I’m not in my dottage - it’s not necessary.”
Since lockdown eased, I have suggested that I visit again, to be told that “I’m shielding- you might bring something.” She doesn’t like daily phone calls - “I’m fine - I don’t need it.”
She has poor eyesight, and very high BP. If she fell, or had a stroke, I wouldn’t know for 2 days. If there was no answer, and I did call the emergency services, and it was a false alarm, she has said she would take this badly, and refuse to answer my calls from then on.
Thanks for any thoughts.