Picking up energy from people

Gilly1952

I think that the first two lines of the second verse of “Desiderata” sums up a lot of people I’ve known! Best avoided if at all possible!

I like that.

I completely know what you mean. I am also sensitive to peoples 'auras'. Some fill the room and are very draining to the point I get a headache and feel I must escape to get some space and air. And those who are full of negativity give me a feeling of being shrouded by a huge dense black fog, again I have to escape for air.

Being in conversation with one person I know is like having a metal bucket over your head while someone hits it with a stick, always glad to escape! ??

We have a friend who can talk non stop, I've seen my husband actually falling asleep during one of the diatribes.

Fuchsiarose I have a relative who can talk for 2-3 hours without drawing breathe or pausing. My head gets dizzy when on the phone to them.

Mostly though, people don’t overpower me verbally. I am an introvert and the relief when I shut my front door, aah.

Just back in from a visit to the hairdresser and I'm exhausted. Whilst being an excellent hairdresser, she's the most negative, "it's all about me", person I've spent any amount of time with. No one else has suffered from the impact of this pandemic as she has. No one else has lost a holiday; only her. No one else has been inconvenienced by the restrictions placed on hairdressing salons; only her. The impact of all this has caused her more stress, expense and worry than anyone else (she doesn't own the salon). I found it increasingly difficult to focus on what she was saying; it was just a monologue of personalised misery and anger and I could sense the rest of the salon going quieter and quieter whilst the litany of self absorbation droned on. I felt like weeping when I finally got outside. Time to find a new hairdresser; can't face this every 6 weeks.

I think that the first two lines of the second verse of “Desiderata” sums up a lot of people I’ve known! Best avoided if at all possible!

Wow, I seem to have disassociated with the comma, or is it from the comma?

Just switched off Vanessa Phelps, what a grating, over excited voice, completely draining.
Yes I agree, drainers and radiators, it does us all good to associate with radiators as long as we too are radiators. Also should listen to the temporary drainers who may need us as a radiator but the constant drainers need the heave ho if we are to survive.

No you are not being unfair. My DD is very loud when she talks and she reckons it's because she has three children all vying for her attention at once. It has now become a habit so even when they are not with her she tends to talk very loudly and I have to ask her to turn down the volume because it hurts my ears!

I do feel sorry for her immediate neighbours. It must be hell.....

My Mum was the kindest, most generous soul, bless her, but so, so negative in her speech.

"How are you today?" "You don't want to know but...."

"What do you think of the new shopping centre?" " I don't like the colour of the floor."

"We've found our new house in (town)" "Oh dear, well, I suppose you can always move."

"You've got a new granddaughter!" "Oh! That's no good, I've already got three!"

Bless you, Mum x

Joanna Lumley and Frank Gardner, BBC correspondent in a wheelchair. I’m not fond of American accents.

Oh yes. Whatever this person's 'niceness' or otherwise - they are bad for you - avoid and minimise interaction.

Such a detrimental effect requires action. This certain person should be avoided. You can manage that albeit with slight inconvenience.

DH, bless him, is getting very negative re Covid (student wimps!!), Brexit, etc. Etc. I welcome the days i go out to work

I love Aled Jones voice, it's so soothing. Love Joanna Lumley as an actress but can't listen to her when she does documentaries, I have to change channel.

Is she a black magician?

Since my brain injury I suffer from sensory overload and cannot cope with loud, noisy situations or people who never stop talking. Some noises make my head hurt.

Amongst the people I meet at church, there are some people, so lowering! but then if I take the time to listen to them I find they have very bad issues to deal with.

some upbeat people, well I find them overwhelming,, why are we expected to be "happy" "optimistic" all the time..

so how are YOU today? I`m fine, I`m fine,, and deep inside, so in need.

but I have to say, this post has made me think.. how to find the happy medium? especially in the few times that we can now get to meet other people..

I'm sure your not Rmegan, because the people who are overbearing, full of what's important to them or are energy suckers have no self awareness at all. They're convinced it's everyone else who's at fault.

Matthew Macfadyens voice or Matthew McConaughyes are both very soothing like chocolate xx I think as we get older we learn to cut the drains out of our lives . If someone talks non stop without listening my husband just walks away doesn’t give an excuse or anything he just walks off . It’s quite funny to watch !

I spend most of my time alone and I’m sure I’m like this when I get to see my friends.

Yes, they suck up your energy. They demand attention, and act as if you owe them your everlasting devotion. Listen, don't you need to go and use the bathroom, and, on the way back, find someone else to whom to speak?

I call them psychic leeches and, while actually they don't generally mean any real harm, if you are subject to their emotional draining, there is no alternative but to avoid them altogether.

I have to switch the tv or radio off if Brian Blessed comes on!

I remember being in a meeting with quite a few people and one person just kept on talking and talking and I felt like I was drowning in his words. I wanted to tell him to just stop talking. I didn't as he was the professional and I was a service user and I wasn't confident enough then. But I felt awful while I was there.