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Lucca Fri 08-Jan-21 18:46:36

One of the reasons I like living alone is that I no longer have to throw things away under cover of darkness I.e. when husband was away for work. “It might come in handy “
He stayed in many hotels as a sales rep and brought home every single free soap shampoo etc . We had bags and bags full. I am not the tidiest of women but I don’t hoard clutter !!
You have my sympathy but no solution!

Oopsadaisy1 Fri 08-Jan-21 18:44:43

I can’t see anything wrong for him to have things around that he grew up with.

Just make the condition that for everything that comes in , something goes out.

However I agree with the other poster that he needs his own space, build him a shed or give him a room for all his stuff.

Ladyleftfieldlover Fri 08-Jan-21 18:19:31

OH graduated from Oxford in 1973. In our loft is a large trunk full of all his textbooks (out of date) and other memorabilia. Each time we move house it goes with us from loft to loft. He knows he will never look at it again and doesn’t care that our three children will have to sort it out when we go under the proverbial bus! He said he just likes to know it’s there. For many years I kept a pile of letters which my late father wrote when I lived overseas for two years. He wrote a brilliant letter. OH accidentally threw them away during one of our moves.

GagaJo Fri 08-Jan-21 18:19:19

Does he have a space that he can do whatever he wants with? Perhaps he could have a 'man cave' he can cram as full as he likes, on the condition it all stays in there.

Coco1 Fri 08-Jan-21 18:10:38

My MIL a lovely lady has passed away and my DH wants to bring a lot of stuff to our house - photos , books and other artefacts. My problem is I don’t mind the photos being in a box in the loft but I don’t want all this stuff in our house. He is very sentimental and also a hoarder big time whereas I veer towards a much more clean look. I don’t want keep arguing - we’ve already done lots of that but I feel unhappy about the situation and have told him . He is generally a reasonable person but the hoarding thing is a big irritant to me. Have any of you had similar problems?