Sorry for my long post; I'll try and keep it simple! Our DD is 27 and moved out of home when she was 18, since then she's lived in several places and now lives 100 miles away. We have always known we had a tricky relationship since her teens and have helped her with her rent, shopping, etc when needed. Now, due to Covid, she is furloughed from her part-time cafe job and claims Universal Credit. We are now paying her full rent, which (at the moment) we are able to do. We know this comes from her being our only child, and our guilt at not being great parents (family history). She rarely calls, despite promising to 'ring on Sunday' and it's rare for us to be able to contact her via phone/social media. Her GP has also suggested she may have Borderline Personality Disorder (family connection) and finds relationships difficult. Two years ago, we and the Police, removed from her from an abusive relationship and she now lives alone. Whenever we challenge her, her voice changes and she gets tearful. I know it's a "back off" reaction and the conversation just breaks down. My head says 'stop paying and let her sort herself out' and my heart says 'she'll end up on the streets'. So, over to you, experienced 'Grans'; where do we go from here?
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