Our 40 year old son recently got amicably divorced and lives with us. His ex and their four year old son live a mile away and the five of us maintain our “bubble” - our GS is often here with his dad who lost his job due to the pandemic while his ex works full time from home. Our son also has clinical depression which is a long-standing condition. My husband is critically ill and our son’s presence is helpful. He is trying to find full time work as well as advance himself in some way for the future. This said, I wanted to point out something my therapist told me when I expressed concern that our son, when in a depressive episode,
tends to sleep all day, be rather grumpy, etc. My therapist explained that when a person (particularly a male with a “family”’to ostensibly “support”) loses a job, returns home to parents, etc. it can make them revert to adolescence. Hence the surliness, sleeping all day, self-absorption, conflict about emotions, etc. I am not saying let things go on and others on this thread have offered excellent advice. I just wanted to share this perspective.