That s.x word

Gagajo wrote:

"(Alexa had written:

One reason sex is rarely discussed on gransnet is that 'how to have orgasms ' does not concern older people so very much. Many partner relationships are companionate not sexual.)

(Gagajo)I'll remember to tell my bloke that. I wouldn't mind it, but I am pretty sure he wouldn't approve. "

Monogamy has this problem that men like penetration sex and are often uneducated in other ways and means.

Oh, and when saying Victorian, be careful
Victoria and Albert had a second lock on their bedroom door in Osborne House, that could only be operated from inside.
They did have a lot of children, and Victoria wrote in her diary that Albert had put her stockings on for her. Given what she was reputed to wear, it wouldn't have left much to Albert's imagination.
So prudery probably did not start with royalty

We are all different, so what one needs may not be that for someone else.
As a friend used to say "If you haven't tried it, don't knock it"
So it doesn't appeal to you? It may to others, and they may benefit from exchanging information and advice.
Talking to S i L was a great help to us.
If battery power provides a solution to a need, and helps, whether on on your own or with a partner, that is good for those concerned.
In a different context, it is no worse than preferring to wearing a colour of hat or clothes that is different from your neighbour, or eating a different food.
We shouldn't condemn someone for enjoying music that is different from our choice.

Some may be Total Abstainers, while others like an occasional drink. Each to their own, as long as it harms no one else.
If it helps and pleases the OP and anyone else, so be it. It will probably be good for their physical and mental health.

I’m not ashamed of being a woman with needs. My ‘lipstick’ one has seen me through many a sleepless night. They don’t have to be massive things; just something that makes you tingle in the right places.

FannyCornforth

What ever happened to OP?
Click bait per chance?
Personally I don't like to talk about or read about masturbation on the internet.
Or indeed any where else.

But perhaps others do? Perhaps it’s reassuring to someone in their 60s, 70s, etc, to know that others still have sexual feelings and ways of satisfying them. The language you are using seems to suggest it’s all a bit dirty / not nice / not to be talked about. Shame.

FannyCornforth

What ever happened to OP?
Click bait per chance?
Personally I don't like to talk about or read about masturbation on the internet.
Or indeed any where else.

A search reveals posts by the OP going back to 2020 so that would suggest it is a genuine one.

www.gransnet.com/info/search?q=Issipy

I've had them in the past but don't have one at present. The Classics forum would be a better place to put this post as it's misplaced in Relationships .
To the OP. Good for you!

BB ????

i have had one for years, i was widowed at 39 and did not want another partner, i have a partner/companion that i see at the weekend, we have been together for 17 years, we have never had an intimate life and he knows i use one, i said to him in the poundshop one day, i need to get batteries....in a loud voice he asked what i needed them for.
the person who thought a lady of 76 using one made them feel sick....i feel sorry for her and her very sad view of other people, it might not be for you and thats fine.

Agree FC.
I can’t believe the amount of over sharing on this thread. The op could be a 25 year old man laughing his head at their replies for all they know.
Telling the whole of GN about your wanking sessions is totally bizarre. I mean it’s not like this forum is massive and no one really knows you.
Still.....takes all sorts as they say.

What ever happened to OP?
Click bait per chance?
Personally I don't like to talk about or read about masturbation on the internet.
Or indeed any where else.

Good on you Issyippy but it did make me laugh the title of the post, and to the posters who dare not buy one, why not! And why on earth worry who finds one when you are gone anyway, they probably have a discreet draw full anyway ?

Older women enjoy orgasms shock on Gransnet!

My friend assures me that in an emergency an electric toothbrush works well
BBbevan just make sure you don’t clean your teeth next morning ?

Polarbear2

Lucca

I wouldn’t dare buy one.... imagine if it arrived from Amazon buzzing away or indiscreetly labelled I live in a Flat with communal area postboxes !!

Erm... it doesn’t buzz until you put batteries in. ?. And they are always discreetly packaged.

I know really, but some joker might have put batteries in ?

Alexa

One reason sex is rarely discussed on gransnet is that 'how to have orgasms ' does not concern older people so very much. Many partner relationships are companionate not sexual.

I'll remember to tell my bloke that. I wouldn't mind it, but I am pretty sure he wouldn't approve.

Alexa

One reason sex is rarely discussed on gransnet is that 'how to have orgasms ' does not concern older people so very much. Many partner relationships are companionate not sexual.

Most of the younger generation think sex ends around 40, if only they knew. Just because we don’t talk about it (most of us) does not mean we’re dead.

prescription of Viagra dated a few days before he died
It was probably used to prevent him from rolling out of bed in the middle of the night! .

My friend assures me that in an emergency an electric toothbrush works well. ??

Amazing isn’t it. We can happily chat about assisted dying but sex? Ooh no. Consensual sex is such a happy thing. Sex toys are good fun and bring a spark to people’s lives. I agree the Grace and Frankie series is great in that it celebrates desire in older women.

Prudes even

I would say that the experience of MN is a fairly useful warning, and that those raising concerns are not prides or victorians or what ever lovely words are thrown about, but those who have been around the block (on the internet) quite a few times.

maybe the deleted messages show why sex is rarely mentioned on gransnet. always low and smutty people waiting in the wings

janeainsworth. Thanks for sharing that link. I’ve never seen it before. Gave me a good laugh ??

This is all making me think of the Netflix show Grace and Frankie, which very much celebrates the idea that older women still have sexual desire and want to orgasm, even if it is a little more difficult. I certainly don’t intend to give it up!