For the last few Christmases I've seen Martin Lewis saying that people should consider not buying gifts for friends and family, partly because half the time one party might not be able to afford a gift but feels compelled to do so because someone bought them one. There's also the thing about not knowing what to buy and many gifts ending up being shoved in the back of a cupboard or being sent to the charity shop.
I saw my best friend at the weekend (we're bubbled) and it's her birthday next week so I took her card and gift with me. We've been great friends for 15yrs+ and we both struggle with finding something for each other at Christmas and on birthdays.
We do both like nice candles but it feels a bit boring buying the same thing year in year out, we've bought journals, cookery books, dog inspired gifts (we've both got spaniels), calendars, diaries, etc. I mentioned this weekend that it's getting difficult to find nice gifts and dropped a subtle hint that I never use calendars or paper diaries although I know she does and that maybe we could just do a nice card and (as we already do) gifts for the dogs or arrange to go out for a nice meal somewhere but she said it's nice to get a little something (we both live alone and have very little in the way of family), so I'll be continuing to pull my hair out whilst searching for something nice for her for Christmas and I'm sure she'll be doing the same.