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Daughter’s fiancé has been secretly gambling and in thousands of debt now

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Esspee Thu 09-Sept-21 08:34:03

Unfortunately the ones I have known about all eventually returned to gambling. It is an addiction. Only the extremely strong stand the very remote chance of staying away from it for ever.
I would be extremely worried OP. These addicts will lie convincingly to get what they want.
I would suggest you post a thread on Mumsnet and show the answers to your daughter. I know she would listen more to people her own age.

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Charleygirl5 Thu 09-Sept-21 08:30:39

I agree with sodapop and I do not think your daughter should marry him at present.

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sodapop Thu 09-Sept-21 08:23:58

So sorry your daughter has to deal with this just before her marriage, what a shock.
People do recover from gambling addiction 123Gran but it takes time and patience. On a practical note I would advise your daughter to ensure her fiance does not have access to her money or share a mortgage with him. Be aware that addicts will lie and cheat to get what they want, sad but true. I hope he agrees to get help but in the meantime your daughter needs to safeguard herself and your granddaughter.

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123gran Thu 09-Sept-21 07:55:03

Just weeks before their marriage this issue came out of the blue as a total shock to her. They were about to sell her house and get a joint home/mortgage together. Not now of course. They have a lovely child together and she’s putting her welfare first in everything as doesn’t want her to grow up in a broken home. I’m worried sick she’ll go ahead and marry him despite knowing she’ll be equally liable for his big debt. Anyone had any experience of this. Can gamblers ever break their addiction without heartbreak?

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