I never called my MiL anything. She never made any suggestions, and I was far too young and shy to ask how I should address her.
As I didn't see much of her, it wasn't usually a problem, but I do remember one occasion where it was difficult.
We were visiting her, but OH had gone out. Mil was upstairs when someone knocked on the back door. I went to call up the stairs to see if she wanted me to open the door, but I didn't know what to call her, so returned to the living room and pretended I had heard nothing! (I found out a long time afterwards that she had heard them knock anyway but didn't want to let them in !!!).
I thought it was just me, but now know that my much older sil (OH's elder brother's wife) never knew what to call her either. If the grandchildren were present, 'Grandma' was the obvious solution, but that didn't work if they weren't there!
My own lovely Dils have always called me by my first name. They also call my elderly mother by her first name, and she's perfectly happy with that. I find it hard to imagine anyone doing anything else in modern Britain, though obviously I realize that this is bound to vary between different cultures.
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