DH is only early 50s, so if there is a neurological condition it is early onset.
DH holds a senior post in a large and well regarded company. He is an expert in his field, he works very hard, though he is very good at not working too long or late into the night. His workload is heavy, he is keeping on top of it and has a high profile.
My point being that if his employers didn’t think that he was doing ok they would be very good at helping him.
Throughout lockdown DH didn’t take much of his holiday so he was allowed to carry some forward. I’m still working, he is on the 2nd week of holiday he is taking just to use it up.
Today I took the day off and we went out for the day. This has been niggling at me for a while, however I really noticed it today.
rather than work time DH is noticeably disorganised; he bought a takeaway coffee, he wanted to buy something in another shop and I could see that he couldn’t work out how to manage holding or putting the cup down or asking me to hold it for him while he looked at the other item.
I know that I will sound cruel, but I wanted to see what he would do and he was trying to work it out for more than a minute, a simple logistical problem.
When he purchased this 2nd item I produced a bag for life, a very basic, unisex, over the shoulder tote made from cotton, the free kind. It was like DH forgot what he was supposed to be doing with the bag. I watched him looking at his purchased items and looking at the bag to try to work it out.
On a few occasions he forgot things I said to him.
When going into public buildings it took him a long time to put his mask on, even though he had plenty with him a new he had them in his hand. I would say ‘you’ll need your mask’ as he forgot every time and still it took him ages to work out what it was doing in his hand, that he had to put it on, how to put it on etc, etc.
It was like watching a toddler discovering and learning for the first time, you know how you can watch the thoughts across their face?
He is sleeping well, eating well, says he is happy, talks about his feelings, we don’t have money worries, he has friends, our DCs are ok. I don’t think he’s having an affair or anything else that would be occupying his mind.
He was so confused on a basic level but was much better when it came to higher-level tasks and thinking.
Should I be worried? Taking action? Start a diary of instances like this?
Or maybe I’m just fussing about nothing?
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