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Constant sadness and confusion

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Grandmabatty Tue 05-Oct-21 19:02:48

I also think you should consider the impact of the menopause on your feelings. It can have a significant impact too.

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Grandmabatty Tue 05-Oct-21 19:01:42

I think you need to address the cause of your sadness before committing to a house move. You are probably still grieving deeply and looking for ways to lighten your mood. I'm not going to say, stay where you are, but actively research the pros and cons of such a move. Be realistic. Look at costs of houses, likelihood of getting a job, transport issues etc. Could you afford to move without your husband? If not, then why are you even considering it? I have a friend who has made many changes in her life looking for happiness. None of them worked because she took her issues with her. Best of luck.

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Foxgloveandroses Tue 05-Oct-21 18:55:40

I'm 51, my father died just before Christmas 2020. I feel so flat nothing seems to shift that feeling. The most troubling thing is though I miss my DS and DD so much. This started before the pandemic but got worse and worse. I live with my DH some 4 to 5 hours drive from them.
I have been wanting for so long to move closer but I know my DH will not be supportive of this. The pull towards them is overwhelming though.
I know I can't go yet as I have 3 years before I can retire from my job with a small pension of my own. I also have to consider my mother who lives and hour or so away from me. However in the future if I still feel this way I know I will just have to go. I don't want to live in their pockets maybe an hour a way, just so I can get to them if necessary and so I can meet up with them for the day.
I just need to know if I sound ridiculous, or is the way I'm feeling ok and does my idea of moving nearer to them seem unreasonable? I feel so sad and confused. If my husband would agree to considering this in future I think I'd feel so much more relaxed and settled, I don't know how to approach it with out him going stubborn and shutting down. If I still feel like this in years to come I almost feel I would have to up and leave him.

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