Who has a son and it hurts?

You are all so fantastic, but it’s so hard to change the habits of a lifetime.

He has been supported by you and his sister in the past. He is a grown man there is no excuse for bad behaviour. I would back off there is only so much you can do concentrate on yourself for a change.

Campanula , I am sad to read your story and I know how much you are hurting. You have had a difficult time bringing up a troublesome child/ teenager - and alone too! You have a loving daughter - enjoy her. Your son has been sober for 6 years , that is a tremendous achievement! So much credit due there. However, it does not give him the right to treat you with disdain , you have tried hard to build a sound relationship with him and he has not responded in an appropriate manner. I am not qualified to advise but I do urge you to take great care of yourself. Perhaps step back a little and give yourself some space. Thank goodness you have a daughter to ease this very painful situation. I sincerely hope things improve for you , but please begin to put yourself first !!!

I have a son and it hurts because he lives abroad and I don't get to share his life and it makes me very sad. I'm sorry your son has been so difficult and spoils your relationship. Be glad that your daughter is loving and kind. Maybe he is disappointed with his life and that makes him bitter its very sad.

I'm so sorry Campanula. I wonder if you should pull back a bit.

6 years sober is one hell of an achievement so now my be the time to let him stand on his own two feet. Be there of course, but minimise your contact with him which will in turn, minimise the opportunities he has to pick at you and put you down.

It's unacceptable Campanula you have to look after yourself, even if that means seeing less of him for a while.

I have a son and it hurts. He estranged us almost 9 years ago and took away our only GC. I miss the lovely man he was, love him just as much as I ever did, but know our lives are happier and healthier without him.

Please, look after yourself and don't accept the unacceptable even if it is coming from your own son.