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Dilemma on Borrowing Family Money.

(35 Posts)
Calendargirl Thu 04-Nov-21 17:57:18

Everybody is saying no, they wouldn’t do it.

What if the boot were on the other foot, and DS were asking mum and dad to lend him the money to buy a property, to be repaid when he sells?

I bet many of you would say yes, if you could afford it and it would help him move.

kittylester Thu 04-Nov-21 17:45:21

Most people manage to do it the usual way.

Hithere Thu 04-Nov-21 17:43:18

There is no right or wrong answer

It depends on your relationship with him and the family dynamics

Another point to take into account is how easy it would be to have the money transferred from Australia to UK - what the financial implications?

Sago Thu 04-Nov-21 17:38:06

No, sell and then buy.

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 04-Nov-21 17:33:18

No I wouldn’t do it. You do have a while to sell your existing home after buying a new one (used to be a year but I believe it’s changed) but for stamp duty purposes you will be buying a second home so will pay more duty though you can reclaim the excess if you sell your old home within I believe three years. These things do change though and of course you will be paying outgoings on two properties.
But I really wouldn’t want to put my son in this position and use him in this way. I think it’s unfair no matter how well he’s doing.

Oopsadaisy1 Thu 04-Nov-21 17:22:26

Personally I wouldn’t do it, why not sell your home and rent until a property you loves pops up and you will be a cash buyer.

Casdon Thu 04-Nov-21 17:19:53

Just a thought, but won’t you have to pay capital gains tax if you move your primary residence from your existing home to an apartment?

crazyH Thu 04-Nov-21 17:16:54

Like Smileless, I wouldn’t. Just be a bit patient……another apartment will come along …..just don’t involve your son in this , however ‘well off’ he is ….

Smileless2012 Thu 04-Nov-21 17:11:37

hmm no it's not something we would do but that's just a personal point of view.

Granless Thu 04-Nov-21 17:10:05

Now then .... we are in our 70/80s and are wanting to downsize from a semi- to an apartment and from experience your home needs, at least, to be on the market. Having been there before and eventually having sold ours, the house we had our eye on meanwhile was sold ... to someone else. Disappointed is putting it mildly.
Moving on ... I. not we, am tempted to ask our son (who lives in Australia and has done very well for himself through hard work) for the money to be able to buy an apartment before having sold ours and repay him when it has.
I don’t want to put my son in an awkward position but just to be straight with me. I can take it on the chin.
Would you do this?
Thoughts on a postcard please.