Granddad in desperate need of advice

Am I a toxic Granddad? My wife passed away when our granddaughter was one so all thoughts and dreams, we had of days out sleepovers and holidays where now no longer an option for me.
My daughter stopped working when Imogen was born and is still not working her dad has had numerous jobs in the same period totaling about 4 years.
My granddaughter was 9 last November. I have always wanted to take just her out for dinner or lunch or to a pantomime or show I figured she was now old enough. I accepted the fact that a young lady has toilet needs and a granddad could not assist, but now she is 9 and can look after herself I have asked my daughter, but she refuses.
Whilst I have had lots and lots of shared time with her and mum with great days out doing and going to fun places, for which I am truly thankful this includes mum mostly and dad when he wants to be included. When she was 3 and again when she was 4 and 5, I wanted to take her with Mum and Dad to see Father Christmas in Lapland her dad did not want to go so we could not because he wanted to be with Imogen on her first Aeroplan flight. When she was six, I took mum and Imogen to Disneyland Paris, but we had to drive because dad did not want to go. On our return her bestie had just come back from a villa holiday in Portugal Imogen asked if I could take her and mummy to do the same her dad said yes if I took him also, I was happy to do so this would at least get over the flight problem so of we all went to Portugal. Then Covid came along the world changed we are now on the way back to normality.
My Daughter and partner have never had a night out together since Imogen was born (I find this odd its not a money problem perhaps I am odd thinking it’s odd) so I have never even had the chance to baby sit. Whilst mummy and Imogen have had many sleep overs at mine Imogen never by herself. I thought this might be because I lived in the middle of nowhere so during covid I moved to a much nearer location. Still no sleep over.
I have a great relationship with Imogen and never missed any event that can be attended school plays, sports days, sports matches what ever it is if spectators allowed, I am there. On the occasions I am allowed to collect Imogen from school she still runs across the playground flies through the air expecting me to catch her she might be bigger and heavier now but for me that is still a magic moment. I am nearly 80 and dread the day I have to tell her I can’t catch her any more she is quite the young lady now so will probably stop soon says I hopefully.
I know I spoil Imogen she can have whatever she wants providing its ok with mum and dad, I only have the one grandchild and while I can I do not want her to miss out on anything. I do want her to have some quality time just with me and whatever is around us not just for me I want it for her also, her mum thinks it is me wanting it for me and its not something Imogen needs or should have. Perhaps I am just an old man with rose tinted glasses that needs to take them off.