Grandma jealousy

Grandmarosie , for goodness sake get this into perspective. Grandma jealousy - whatever next!
Your granddaughter is 3 years old , she will not have the same social awareness as an adult. My GC are just the same , they love spending time with me but when it comes to a family get together they have ‘ other fish to fry’ !!!, You left the party because you were so ANGRY, I find that unbelievable. Makes me wonder who is the child here? Sorry to sound harsh but you really must take sensible path here not a toddler tantrum.
Your behaviour could well cause family problems so my advise is beware ! and please stop thinking your beloved GD is an adult! and conduct yourself in a more dignified manner. I really hope you are able to view this situation with common sense and I wish you good luck in your endeavours.

Our DGS6 idolises Grandad, and would run straight through me if he could to get to him. And DGS1 once presented us with a Best Grandparents card at a school assembly, telling us firmly that it wasn't for us, it was for his other grandparents (I could actually see that the curly haired goddess he'd drawn on the front wasn't me). It's a good job I'm not the sensitive type.

Seriously, OP, children are fickle. By the time your DGD's four, you could well be the favourite. Just don't let it upset you. And don't, whatever you do, let anyone see that you're jealous.

I would just want her happy, perhaps she doesn’t see the other grandma too much, do you begrudge her time with her gd. I wouldn’t want that behaviour around my children and rethink the time you do spend with her.

There’s nothing to suggest the OP ‘ stormed out’, or ‘ punished her granddaughter’.

She says she was very upset and left the party early. This may or may not have been noticed. We don’t know. She could have exploded when she got to the car/ home. Of course, it may have been different to this, but we don’t know.

The point is...realising her little granddaughter has every right to play with who she chooses. I quite like being at party events, and not being asked to play/ read or whatever. I like talking to the adults. I used to look after one of my grandchildren three days a week, so was more than happy for her to go to others at get togethers.

Hithere

This gc is not there to fulfill your needs.

Reevaluate your reaction and do not punish a child for being a child.

I think the OP is aware of that, in future try to keep those jealous feelings to yourself.
OP cant help her feelings, but she must not show it.

Who’s the child here ?

Yes get some help in dealing with your feelings. Angry with a 3 year old, storming out? Get over yourself

If you had stormed out of a party at my home and the other GP was there I would let you go and think twice about having you back when I was inviting other guests.
Really inappropriate to get angry, as some others have suggested, get your anger under control before you revisit the 3 yr old.

Grandmabatty

You are the adult here. You say you spend lots of time with her anyway, so what's the problem? Your granddaughter is only three and will chop and change her affections many times. Why on earth would you punish a small child because they play with someone else? I have experience of this with my sil's father who tries very hard to be competitive parenting. I am happy to play with dgs1 if he asks. If he wants his other grandparents, so be it. I see him lots of times and I'd rather be the bigger person. His paternal granny hardly sees him.

Good advice from Grandmabatty

silverlining48

Same gran I think. The other thread started 5 years ago.

Must be another grandchild, then, if this one is only three.

I agree, I think you may need help with your anger issues, GrandmaRosie.
Perhaps your GP can help to point you in the right direction.

My granddaughter adores my younger son - her uncle. She always wants to sit with him and for him to read her stories. It’s sweet and not annoying at all.

As per the previous post work out what you are angry about? A fickle 3 year old ?
Why leave early who were you trying to punish
She is very young and may have been enthralled to see the other nanny at that age they don't have much social awareness

I see OP has also posted on the thread today - the one from 2017 mentioned above.

Who are you angry with? Surely you want your grandchild to be happy, if that means she is happier with someone else then so be it.

I can understand being upset that she preferred the other grandma but not angry.

Dear me. Competitive grandparents. How childish.

You regard GPing as being some sort of competition? Rise above it. Only the other adults will notice your pique and be uncomfortable about it. GC won't have a clue/care (I sincerely hope!).

Same gran I think. The other thread started 5 years ago.

You are the adult here. You say you spend lots of time with her anyway, so what's the problem? Your granddaughter is only three and will chop and change her affections many times. Why on earth would you punish a small child because they play with someone else? I have experience of this with my sil's father who tries very hard to be competitive parenting. I am happy to play with dgs1 if he asks. If he wants his other grandparents, so be it. I see him lots of times and I'd rather be the bigger person. His paternal granny hardly sees him.

Sorry, notflowers, I meant this - ,

Two new threads by competitive grandmas?

Oh they certainly can be fickle! Our granddaughter (from a very young age) has regularly ignored my DH if I am present. But, if it's just the two of them she chats away! DH finds it amusing rather than upsetting. He's a windup merchant and I think it's her way of trying to wind him up ? Children can be so cruel at times!

This gc is not there to fulfill your needs.

Reevaluate your reaction and do not punish a child for being a child.

Competitive grand parenting? Come on! Allow your grandchild to have fun without making it about you.

Aww...she’s only three, please don’t worry, although I understand you completely. Is it that she rarely sees the other granny, so she’s a bit of a novelty? What about the grandads? How do they feature?

I think children learn quickly to manipulate if they can, and it may be she thinks/ does...get something from the other granny, if she doesn’t see her that much. What you do for her is naturally more spread out.

Do you have other grandchildren?

Perhaps if your grandaughter spends a lot of time with you it's a novelty to spend time with the other gran.

I would tread very carefully before you think about leaving early again, though, because it's not something to behave like that about.