My first marriage was abusive physically mentally financially and sexually. I was also cheated on many times including during pregnancy and while son was a baby. I finally got away after 10 years. He didn’t have any time for his son before the split,but suddenly wanted to know when I left used him as a weapon to continue controlling and frightening behaviour. My son was almost 3 at the time. The ex died when son was 18.
I had to be there for my son during that time but I struggled while people said the usual things about what a good man he was. A lot of people didn’t go to the funeral because they knew from their own experiences that he had been far from it. ( Theft and inappropriate behaviour)
My son has a child himself now (my wonderful grandchild). Quite often he will say what a great fun grandad he would have been. So far I have just nodded but it makes me so upset inside. I have recently had therapy sessions and cbt for panic disorder. It made me feel I was still respecting ex’s memory and it shouldn’t be so after all I went through. I don’t want my son to know the horror of it all but just don’t know how to respond when he says this about his dad. Any suggestions please? I don’t want to spoil my relationship with DS his DP and my GC
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