Cannabis smoking neighbour

Social services were not at all bothered by someone I know being a smoker.
The children are well cared for, the person works, and there is nothing to remove the children for.

What if the children ate the brownies Tinydancer?

Pashmiya

Report him to the police and social services, if he loses his kids and gets locked up problem solved

Your cruel words reflect everything that is wrong with our country nowadays. Unless you aren't even in the UK. Hopefully not.

Report him to the police and social services, if he loses his kids and gets locked up problem solved

He needs support and perhaps a call to the children’s school may be the part of a jigsaw needed to make a referral to social services. They may be able to allocate a parent support worker and get him support for his drug use. At the end of the day 3 children are at the heart of this dilemma and have to come first.

For those who aren't familiar with the smell, cannabis smells far worse, much stronger and more acrid than ordinary cigarette smoke. We too have had neighbours who smoked it constantly, with all their many friends, out on their patio near our house and it was horrible. My daughter's bedroom used to reek of it And most unfair to have to keep your windows all closed all summer or else be choking on it.

I dont know if taking it in the cooked brownies version has the same affect on the user as smoking it? However it would avoid the smell and kids inhaling it and smelling of it themselves. It would also avoid the possibility of throat cancer as previously mentioned. Might have to cut the sugar amount a bit or could increase his weight.
I am aware of the smell and find it utterly stomach churning.

Just continue being a caring, compassionate and honest neighbour.. explain to him how his behaviour is impacting you and your husband and ask him to take the responsible action of smoking away from your house, garden and windows. Please continue keeping contact with the children. Although this is technically illegal it is also very understandable and used by many people in this country to counteract stress. Please be there for him...

No dilemma here, just support him or leave him alone.

Tell him that the stink of it is making your husband unwell! He seems a nice man and yet needs to be told that he needs not to ever do it any more near your home. Also the children must not be exposed to the fumes.

In your position, I would scour the internet for a Cannabis Recipe Book; wrap it in giftwrap, attach a gift card with the words, "For The Sake Of Your Health", and drop it through his letterbox.

Firstly he isn't a criminal although he may have had a criminal past. You could report him, but neither the police nor social services are likely to do anything if the children are adequately cared for, fed, clothed and attending school regularly. He might be sent on a course which would make caring for the children even more difficult for him. www.release.org.uk/law/possession
It is also possible that he has recognised your husband and is stressed at the thought of living next door to you and that is one reason he doesn't want you to watch the children.
I think you should try to ignore it and close your windows. If you continue to be friendly and chatty it is possible that he might come to trust you more and you might one day be able to deal with things. But if you try now it may cause a rift.

Just out of interest, imaround, do a lot of people smoke it there?

I live in the US and in one of the first state to legalize Marijuana, so I don't find it a big deal. However, of it bothers you you need to talk to him and let him know of the drifting smoke.

Elizabeth and Iam64, I'm afraid that he indeed could smoke that much pot. People get accustomed to it and the effect is lessened on heavy users. It would be a very expensive habit, unless he is growing his own; which is another issue...

I would have a word with him. Speaking from a place where cannabis use is legal, I 'm not as offended by the use, but I don't like the smell either. I do think that is an awful lot of pot he's smoking, and yes I do think it could affect his parenting.

While reluctant to say anything about his lifestyle choices, I would say something about the amount of smelly smoke drifting your way, and your right to enjoy your back garden.

Elizabeth27

Some of what he smokes must be just tobacco, he could not smoke 10-12 joints of skunk and still be standing.

Exactly so. It’s rare for people to smoke weed on its own, unless using a pipe ( so friends tell me)

Some of what he smokes must be just tobacco, he could not smoke 10-12 joints of skunk and still be standing.

Iam64

If the neighbour was female, would so many posters be expressing sympathy for the pressures she’d face

No, they wouldn't.
My thought too.

What, isn't (s)he working? Is (s)he on benefits then??

It smells like cat wee to me for some reason...

Just tell him the smell is bothering you, can he please smoke away from your windows...

No need to worry about falling out

It is illegal, but the police will usually just confiscate it and issue a warning or fine.
Drug driving is another matter, and they do seem to be testing for that more now.

Shandy57

My poor friend's husband is now being peg fed due to throat cancer after a lifetime of weed smoking. It is a reasonable request to ask him to smoke away from your house.

How much of each joint was tobacco?

I should stress I’d be sympathetic to a single mum- in fact all single mums. It’s tough and my experience personally and professionally Is single mums are more likely to be criticised than dads - sweeping generalisations are ok on this thread ?

Me too! I look after one child, my 4 year old DGS. It is exhausting. I can't imagine trying to do it with three of 'em.

Speaking for myself only, of course.