You finished your post by saying you have been married too long to give it up, so moving away on your own isn't on, plus he would have to agree to leaving your hone and you each having half of everything, which he wouldn't do, so it isn't practical. An hour away isn't too far at all. The thought that living closer, you would see more of each other rarely happens. I think a lot of men wouldn't want that journey and do what you do with childcare, in a few years it will be too much for you. You have to agree to differ. Don't know what sort of drinker he is, but a talk needs to be had about that. Doubtful he will change at his age though. If it is practical stay over in bad weather. I was a young grandmother so it was no bother, but that routine is a bit full on with three children to care for even one day. Others might disagree but you are obviously finding it hard. I really think you gave to look at the real problem, you are finding it hard and want his help, that he first want to give. I hope you find a solution.