Driving- does it affect your relationship?

When we go away we always use DH car it’s bigger and more powerful but I don’t drive it very often
We never have any argument over this he is far more confident than me especially on motorways but I am a good navigator and I will tell him which lane we need ect
So I suppose my question is is your husband a bad driver or is it your perception, are you confident behind the wheel of your car.
By saying he drives too fast what is your feeling about this and what do you consider as too fast.
Should be no need for excessive breaking at roundabouts he won’t have any break pads left

I and my DDs totally refused to drive if my husband was in the car, unless he was bound, blindfolded, gagged and in the back seat. He was an excellent driver but a dreadful passenger, with constant sharp intakes of breath and a running commentary on all the other drivers 'mistakes'. Even when I was driving him to ED when he broke and dislocated his elbow, he attempted to grab and turn the wheel. There was one benefit to this obsession i.e. if going to a social occasion where there was alcohol, he was always the designated driver

I'm a less confident driver on the A1 or M11, can do, don't prefer.

I accept that and drive locally. My husband is an excellent driver, albeit a bit aggressive - I read a book and ignore.

DH was always a better driver than me - doing in excess of 20k a year when he was working. He never had any points and his only accident was down to black ice, which caught out the responding Police car too.
I don’t consider myself a poor driver and clocked up 100 miles a day, just in the school run and once had 3 points!
When DH became ill, we always took his car to appointments as it was easier for him to get in and out and 4wheel drive for bad weather and often shared the driving, but as his illness progressed and he got peripheral neuropathy, he acknowledged he wasn’t entirely safe and preferred me to drive. It was a crushing blow for him, when the GP rang to say his licence had to be cancelled - as if he’d lost the power to make his own decisions.

It was a constant source of strife. He was a very anxious man and hated being driven by anyone - but I hated being driven by him for all the reasons stated by others above - and he got worse after doing the advanced drivers course and test. He thought he was invincible. Every holiday was cursed by this.

When he got Parkinsons he had to accept me driving him, and I knew how much he hated it. But a bit of me felt that, whilst I felt sorry for him, it did sort of balance things out for all the years I had suffered!

I loved it when we had a caravan for a few years as it slowed him down!

I cannot understand this 'husband drives' mentality as we always took it in turn and neither of us had a problem with the other driving.

I don't think anyone likes a back seat driver because thinking that the passenger is watching you can make the driver either nervous (women) or irritable (men). Every driver has to learn to be a good passenger, it's absolutely essential. If they do not have that skill then they need to practice, and the only way is to let someone else drive! So women need to buckle up and get in the driver's seat, whether to the shops or on holiday.

I wanted to keep my first post short.
To answer the comments: We each have our own car, so no way am I restricted in my movements. We need very different seating positions and it would be a real nuisance if we used our cars interchangeably. DH’s car has more gizmos which would just annoy me. Obviously we only take one car on holiday together. His is newer and he hates not driving ( ie being in control) though I make all the decisions about where we go. He doesn’t even look at the map, as he relies on my directions or Satnav. So not so controlling.
If I refused to go in his car we would not go away.

I chose the word skilful, rather than good or safe, as I think it is the correct one.

And no, he is not skillful driver, he is a dangerous one.

It is such a patriarchal role, holding the power and control over the female population

Honestly, i would refuse to go in the car with the person if they refuse to make changes and take your observations into consideration

I would also buy a car that is just yours.
He can join you in "your" car if he wants

What is weird to me is how a couple has "his" car only, as if you have no right to it.
That is not right at all, it could be considered abusive if it limits what OP can do in a daily manner