Asking girls if they have a boyfriend

Meant if they asked about my daughter, who’s single, or her 15 year old daughter, not me!

I’d say ‘I don’t know, have you?’ Let them think on that.

My son and daughter in law lived together for several years before marrying. A few months later it was clear that they had married to start a family. Our first grandchild duly arrived slightly more than nine months later. A friend smirked, ‘So, they only just got married in time’. I thought it a very odd remark!

I think it's an embarrassing and somewhat intrusive question, I certainly wouldn't ask it of anyone, they volunteer the information if they want people to know, if not, then don't ask, that's my policy, because I certainly didn't appreciate such a question being posed to me way back in the mists of time when I was a teen.

It is a very intrusive question and nobody’s business!
I think it deserves a put down but can’t think of a polite one at the moment!

Someone asked my then-12yo-dd if she had a boyfriend. She gave him a withering look and said ‘No. I have two older brothers.’ End of conversation. 😂

Relatives used to ask "are you courting?" Sounded old fashioned even then!

I actually meant barren if it meant I'd have been Baron, I'd have just kept myself on that shelf

I understand too and I don't know what the rush is. My Mum used to say to me, if you don;t get a good one and ring on your finger you'll be baron (true story) so I met someone and settled down quite quickly and it has worked out well
BUT what the hell!
She is now worried my extremely nice looking children will left on the shelf as well

My daughter and her partner have recently split, but both attended my son's wedding in May, when things between them were strained, but the announcement hadn't been made public, largely because of the wedding. You wouldn't believe the number of people asking them separately and together when they would be getting married, or commenting that 'it'll be your turn next'. It was awkward to say the least.

I also remember an aunt of mine who was known in the family as 'Mad Auntie X'. She was the worst at intrusive and impertinent questions. Once at a funeral she went round all the young family members asking how many O levels they had passed, and having embarrassed them with that one went in for a second round of 'are you courting?' My cousin had just broken off an engagement, and another had failed his O levels at the same time as his twin, who had passed all hers with flying colours. I was newly married at the time, and she asked me when I was planning to have children, and if I'd give up work when I did so. for all she knew I might have been trying unsuccessfully, or have just lost a baby.

There is just no need. People don't ask adults about their sex lives, or how much they earn, and young people have as much right to privacy about their own personal lives.

It is such a chavinist remark. It implies that female success is measured by whether she has a man in tow. She needs the man to prove she is a woman.

I am afraid if any of my friends were to ask such an assinine question about DGD. They would get a very dusty answer.

says more about the asker, doesn't it.
it's a good thing you've given her the old heave-ho, so that you'll hear less of such nonsense.
another response to, has she got a bf, could be,
why, have you ?
i'm married !
so ?

I completely understand where you are coming from, I was a very private teenager/young adult and it used to drive me mad. I was sorting lots of things out in my head at the time and was also busy with other pursuits. I felt exactly the same when it was asked about my son. I tend to just very quickly brush it off and move on to other topics.