I have posted before about the challenges of losing my lovely mum last March after a long illness, but 9 months later I have settled into my new life which is exhausting but necessary. I know that I am not alone in having adult children still at home needing a degree of support (due to disability) an elderly frail parent who really doesn't want to live any longer without his late wife (probably because she did absolutely everything for him and I don't, encouraging him to be as independent as he is capable of) and still having 7 years to work before state pension is payable.
I thought this thread could provide a safe space for us to let off steam without judgement if anyone wants to. I will start, a very minor issue but typical. Yesterday on leaving my home, after my son had fetched dad so he could spend some hours chatting with visiting extended family, I gave my father his weekly medication cassette filled by me (GP won't dispense a pre-filled one much to my chagrin) into his hand and reminded him to put it in his coat pocket as my son was dropping dad back home. Late last night I found said medication in the entrance hall discarded on an empty cardboard box.
The result being emails from dad this morning asking why I hadn't given him any medication.
My son and I have spent a fair amount of the Christmas period, taken as annual leave from work, doing jobs for dad, including jobs around his house, laundry and shopping and now my poor son has had to turn out on the last day before returning to work, to deliver the "forgotten" medication.
I understand Dad is lonely and really wants us to visit him daily. But, he won't have carers go into him or go to any local social events for the elderly, because he is "not like them, he was a professional" so it seems really convenient that he forgets things at times. We are all back in work tomorrow, my new job is really accommodating of my carer role, but I know that they pay me to work not run around after my dad who could have years of life left yet. He just doesn't get that both my son and I work long hours and have responsibilities of our own. simply cannot be at his beck and call all day every day
Wordling away continued??? 🟩🟩🟩🟩🟩
The degradation of the U.K. s constitutional standards.
Spade or shovel?Light hearted.