Ohhhh its so very difficult because as a parent you are so torn.
My son now lives in Canada, he married a fabulous girl from Canada and they have 2 daughters now. I have a daughter here who I see a lot and I am very involved in my grandchildrens lives, cinema, sleepovers, days out, pantomime, picnics, baking, sewing, in fact you name it and we do it all together, so there lies the guilt and a sense of wanting to be able to do exactly the same with my granddaughters in Canada. Yes they have an absolutely fabulous life out there and I am over the moon that they do, much more than over the moon and yes I video call them and see what they are doing..... BUT of course there is that tiny part that lives within you, thatvwon't leave you, that feeling of upset, BUT in an odd way I don't want it to leave me because if it left then that would indicate I had no care.
So i send sewing over to them, i write them cards that I love them and i am thrilled to bits they have such an amazing life over there and i just accept that tiny bit that lurks within me of upset because it is what it is..... I most certainly wouldn't let my feelings known to them... never, that would be extremely selfish.