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Role Reversal

(52 Posts)
crazyH Mon 06-Mar-23 20:53:13

I am and have always been a very independent person. But if I was struggling financially, I would first try to see how I could cut my monthly outgoings. I would probably downsize ( which I did, following my divorce). You are doing the right thing by reviewing your financial situation and you say you are not desperate. If your daughter is in a ‘high income bracket’ and want to help, accept it. Btw, do they have children of their own?
If you feel you really are struggling, I don’t see why you shouldn’t accept your kind and generous daughters help, and that of your son-in-law.

NanaPlenty Mon 06-Mar-23 20:37:42

Has anyone else reached a stage where they feel that they are no longer ‘the parent’ and their children are now in charge ? I am struggling at the moment with finances (like many people) and it’s not a dreadful situation but I’m reviewing what I can and can’t afford. My daughter and her husband are in a high income bracket and want to help but I’m finding it hard to accept this. I’ve always felt it should be me as the parent that looked after them. Would love some other lovely Gransnetters opinions .