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Getting 'told off' by DH anyone else experienced this strange behaviour?

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Curiousdan Thu 06-Apr-23 00:12:15

Hi, my DH is 67 and retired. Today I sat on his glasses and the lens fell out. It was my fault because I should know that he always keeps his glasses on the arm of the chair. A few days ago I should have known he was driving a certain route to go to a supermarket and he was angry because I should have said we didn't need to go shopping. Just now I knocked his glasses again by coming in through the door and walking too close to the sofa. There's about an 18 inch space to walk into the room but he was 'perplexed' as to why I got so close to the sofa arm. Once when I was out he rang and told me off for leaving the bedroom door open when DS2's friends were in the house - I'd not been in all day smile you get the picture. Okay so these things are trivial on the scale of things but also very annoying. I told him to write a list of things I can and can't do and I will try to abide by it! He's always been a bit like this but the 'you should have known' is a new one. I also asked if the gardening tools could go in the shed and he said yes but the bikes would have to go to the scrapyard (they are perfectly good bikes). It's all a bit absurd and it's almost like he cannot see logic. If you read this post thank you, I needed to talk to someone.

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Callistemon21 Fri 07-Apr-23 10:28:50

Poppyred

Nicegranny’s post is in answer to Kalu’s post about her mother. 😳

Which you have obviously misunderstood.

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Callistemon21 Fri 07-Apr-23 10:27:33

An unnecessary and nasty response nicegranny

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Kalu Fri 07-Apr-23 10:18:14

male family members.

Thank you to those who understood my post and replied on my behalf.

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Esmay Fri 07-Apr-23 10:17:42

Hi Curiousdan ,

I'm very sorry to read about your husband's bullying and controlling tactics .

I wonder if he's actually not well and it's why he's so intolerant .

Whether he's unwell or just spoilt and selfish - either way please don't allow him to dominated you .

If your life and it's precious .

Madgran77 has given you some great advice .

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Kalu Fri 07-Apr-23 10:11:22

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Wyllow3 Fri 07-Apr-23 09:39:15

That did occur but the O/P mentions he's always been rather that way

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nadateturbe Fri 07-Apr-23 09:33:44

It may be the start of something but not necessarily. My husband has become irritating, Like a combination of Meldrew and Doc Martin.
Walk away, or tell him to be quiet, you're not interested.

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Poppyred Fri 07-Apr-23 09:08:57

Nicegranny’s post is in answer to Kalu’s post about her mother. 😳

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Marydoll Fri 07-Apr-23 08:54:38

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Fleurpepper Fri 07-Apr-23 08:35:19

fancythat

Is he angry about things? His life?

another possibility could be the beginnings of that dreadful disease we have mentionned so often recently.

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Baggs Fri 07-Apr-23 08:22:45

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Witzend Fri 07-Apr-23 08:16:59

GagaJo

I'd tell him to f*ck off.

Me too.
Luckily my dh isn’t a grumpy old git.

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argymargy Fri 07-Apr-23 08:06:38

According to my ex-H, everything was my fault. He was not old or retired...

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Fleurpepper Fri 07-Apr-23 08:01:07

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Iam64 Fri 07-Apr-23 07:59:42

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Foxygloves Fri 07-Apr-23 07:39:54

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Callistemon21 Fri 07-Apr-23 00:03:18
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It sounds as if he's bored.

Can you persuade him to join some clubs, go out more and find other people to whinge talk to?

You could buy him something like this for a present, his specs, bits and bobs, TV controls etc will all be safe and handy next to his chair. Just keep tidying them into there until he gets the message.

I think women adapt better to retirement than men.

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Nicegranny Thu 06-Apr-23 23:33:23

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Grannybags Thu 06-Apr-23 21:12:30

GagaJo

I'd tell him to f*ck off.

This! 🤣

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Fleurpepper Thu 06-Apr-23 21:04:53

GagaJo

I'd tell him to f*ck off.

Been sitting on my hands- but this, yes!

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Wyllow3 Thu 06-Apr-23 20:07:17

Yes but separation and living alone and starting again ain't an easy route once you get quite a bit older. But the relief in constantly not being given negative feedback about ones very personality.....

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Smileless2012 Thu 06-Apr-23 20:02:44

Well TBH GagaJo so would Igrin.

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GagaJo Thu 06-Apr-23 19:01:14

I'd tell him to f*ck off.

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NanKate Thu 06-Apr-23 18:59:40

I hope you are joking that you have asked you DH to write down a list of dos and don’ts. Please stand up to him he sounds a right pain in the proverbial 👎

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Kalu Thu 06-Apr-23 17:53:07

Nicegranny

My mother used to say that “men get miserable when they get older”.
I’m so glad I’m divorced and happily living on my own.

How many men did your mother know to make such a ridiculous statement?

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