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Husbands disability threatening family harmony

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Germanshepherdsmum Sat 13-May-23 10:57:11

I also agree with Sago. It’s unfair to expect your children, with families of their own, to be their father’s carers. If your husband doesn’t want carers coming in, but needs them, tough.

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Bella23 Sat 13-May-23 10:53:55

I agree with Sago get a Care package and then you have the freedom to tell them what you want and need. With family, it is always a negotiation and if they have young families will be organising their own lives.
Don't take your sons shouting too badly try and make up. I admit I had to put the phone down on my mother until she realised I had family commitments in my house and she had to let the social services help. You need to override your husband's wishes and tell him this as well.

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Sago Sat 13-May-23 10:47:24

Get a care package.
You cannot expect your children to take on the care.

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Primrose53 Sat 13-May-23 10:43:50

I didn’t see your original post. What is your husband’s disability?

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Notjustaprettyface Sat 13-May-23 10:41:41

I posted a few weeks ago on my struggling with my husbands disability and received some very helpful replies for which I am grateful
Since then , my husband has had a short stint in hospital followed by a 72 he care package when he came back home
Last week , a social worker came to explore options of help for me and my husband
My husband doesn’t want / like carers so the social worker suggested our adult kids who live locally should help us more
He said I should have a conversation with them which I did but our son shouted me down being very rude at times and our daughter wasn’t much more forthcoming although she didn’t shout
They both have young families but when I said that tho the social worker he said : so what ? We all have families
So as I write this I am not on speaking terms with our son and don’t wish to see him
I don’t know what to do
Any words of advice please ?
Thank you
M

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