I love my partner with all my heart and we are due to get married soon, but it's a very complicated situation.
My adult child and their partner and baby live me. They have a lot going on between and I support them as much as I can, but I also try to balance this with spending time with my partner.
He doesn't stay at mine as we are over crowded, so I stay at his one or 2 nights a week. He lives with his parents as one of them is severely disabled and he helps.
My child and partner are looking for a place, but it's not easy.
My child has mental health problems and sometimes needs my help, but when she comes to me for help and it interferes with me and my partners plans, my partner then gets upset, which I understand, but
I feel I am constantly stuck in the middle. To add to this I am legally responsible for my other grandson (daughters other child). Due to violence from the Dad when she was with him.
My daughter and her new baby have been in and out of hospital a lot since baby was born so I have to be at home to look after my other grandchild, which then causes more issues with my partner.
I just don't know what to do any more.
Yes my daughter and her partner living here is hard and they need their own place, but my partner making daily digs and comments really isn't helping.
I get constant comments from him on a daily basis. They need to do this, they need to do that. I shouldn't be doing so much. It's all wearing me down.
I'm constant trying to keep the peace and keep a balance. But what I am supposed to do if my daughter has a mental break down or needs to take the baby to hospital? Am I supposed to not help?
I feel like I'm letting my partner down, but on the other hand they are my family and if they need my support then I'll help them.
My partner has never had kids and doesn't fully understand what it is like too. He's always had an independent life and does what he wants. We are due to get married soon but can't even live together because of both of our living situations.
I'm anxious most of the time in case something happens at home and my partner gets upset. I just don't know what to do.
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