Lack of connection, lack of joy.

We mostly have different interests and spend a ot of time apart, but you should be able to find something you can share..
talk about it.
And find some interests outside.

Baggs

* We just have nothing to talk about because we dont like the same things*

Why can't you talk about what each of you is interested in?
Spouses do not have to be interested in the same things to take an interest in what the other is doing.

Do something interesting and tell him about it.

This!!

I’ve pm’d you OnwardandUpward

Onwardandupward - please take this seriously, unless you want him to look elsewhere. Happened to me. After all these years, I now feel I am a happily settled divorcee. I love it, but was very hard at first.

What do you actually expect?

Is there any love between you both? Perhaps if you showed affection things might shift.. You don't have to have interests in common but in order to have true harmony you must surely like each other...

* We just have nothing to talk about because we dont like the same things*

Why can't you talk about what each of you is interested in?
Spouses do not have to be interested in the same things to take an interest in what the other is doing.

Do something interesting and tell him about it.

You knew who he was when you married him and wanted a safe relationship at that time so you can hardly blame him now that he does not provide you with a more exciting connection.

Find something to do outside the home or end the marriage so that he can find someone that is happy to live a quiet but content life, it is unfair of you to expect him to change.

Be careful what you wish for...

Im never bored singly and neither is he. We just have nothing to talk about because we dont like the same things and dont find things we both enjoy together. We dont have mutual friends, never have.

I wish he did make me laugh. That would be novel. Sharing a sense of humour would be a blessing.

As far as "living in harmony" goes, I think we just coexist in a passionless way

You say you live in harmony in which case, assuming you wish to stay with your husband, you have to find joy outside the home.
I married my one and only husband because he made me laugh a lot ( he certainly wasn’t safe) but it’s not enough for a marriage.

If you are bored take up some new activities. Your being bored is no-one else's responsibility. Without wishing to be personal, I imagine a bored person is boring to live with.

Is your husband bored too?