Deleted my dating profile

My DH died 16 years ago after 35 years of marriage. I was only 54 and I’m now 70 . It would have been our golden wedding anniversary last September and I’m still on my own but prefer it that way . I’m not ready to do someone else’s laundry and never will be .

I can't help but think if you are looking for a man (or woman) to make your life happier you need to have a rethink about how you are living your own life right now ... I've been single for almost 12 years, hasn't stopped me travelling (actually, done more travelling in the last 12 years than the previous 20 years with "him"). It'd be nice to have a date night now and again, and I'd really love to walk into a room and have a "significant other"'s eyes light up when they see me, but - my opinion - if you need a man to make you happy then you are doing something wrong.

I've seen so many friends settle for Mr OK. Someone who is a bore, who talks over them, who grumps at home if they go out but won't go out with them, overbearing etc ... makes zero effort at life. I'd rather carry on solo than sorry.

I don't use the word "alone" - that gives an impression that I'm lonely. I'd rather be alone and happy than as a couple and miserable.

Alternatively, if you are lucky enough to find someone some years younger, happen to click and don't mind raised eyebrows or people thinking you are a sugar mummy, they might take care of you. Or not need caring for, anyway.

I met my present husband via a newspaper ad over 20 years ago. We have been happily married for 18 years now. I was alone for 10 years before that. There was just something about his ad which caught my attention.

Nearly 20 years divorced and still love my single life. I feel more of a person now than I did when married

My son father inlaw met his partner on match they were only together couple of months before lockdown and they did that together and still going strong he said best thing he ever did lol me myself you name the site I’ve tried it most only wanna talk about the ex 🤣 and I’m past being his mum don’t get me wrong I’ve dated a few but most only wanna sit on sofa like an old married couple and I’ve done that when I was married but I’ve given up on men Ive got everything I need with family and friends if I get that despite I can buy a rabbit 🤣🤣

"infest" 😆 love it!

I'm 68, widowed for 3 years, and I would never, ever want another relationship with a man. It takes so long to develop trust with someone, and I just can't afford that much time! Also, considering the probable age of any suitor, there is the chance that they could develop dementia and I'm not prepared to spend my last years nursing some crazy old man. I'm happy on my own, find lots to do to keep busy and I love my cosy little home.

I could have written exactly the same as you OP! It was not that I wanted someone to look after me but I did want to meet someone who could look after himself, physically and financially. I realised it was taking too much of my time and emotional energy and gave up about 10 years ago and am much happier since then.

I've been on my own since widowed. I'm independent and happy with lots of interests. I was talking to a male friend who'd tried internet dating but after dates with 3 women because he said they were all too needy and just wanted to off load their problems on to him.

BlueBelle

I ve done all the relationship stuff and unluckily never found the one that didn’t cheat, beat or retreat so I m, if you like used to and learnt how to be reasonably happy, alone, its peaceful, its safer and it’s ok once you get used to it

BlueBelle, It feels really nice to just move ahead with my own life and my core happiness. But a few years ago I did have a guy that "got me" and it was a lot of fun, I wish I could have that back again! I did find one interesting thing while dating, men that were never married were more suited to me and my very independent nature.
But being alone beats being with someone that is not worth my time any day of the week.

I ve done all the relationship stuff and unluckily never found the one that didn’t cheat, beat or retreat so I m, if you like used to and learnt how to be reasonably happy, alone, its peaceful, its safer and it’s ok once you get used to it

Thanks Margs, the needy ones just ended it for me, none of them added to my life just takers. I could just feel myself taking care of them and thought here we go again. And when I wanted to vent about something they were just emotionally unavailable, so what is the purpose of the relationship. Seems like healthy relationships you support each other and I only found ones that wanted me to support them.

Good on you, gigi1958! It's my opinion that the men who infest online dating sites are in two definite categories: 50% scammers and 50% man-babies who are too damn lazy to housekeep for themselves.

Why would anyone think I am a chatbot, for the record I am not! I live in the U.S. in Virginia to be exact.
Hope that clears up anything I really am curious though what in my post would make someone think I'm a chatbot!

I've been happily single and independent for the past 15 years and would never change it by choice. It's freedom for me after years of looking after others and putting their needs before my own. It's a revelation when you realise that you are enough.

Blue bell. Irrelevant whether genuine or no I think in many of us is the urge to do what we are told not to ‼️

Seems a genuine comment, why put women off joining when women greatly outnumber men on senior dating sites.
You do need to treat it as a game, an adventure until you find a real prospect, it’s not difficult to identify the time wasters.

BlueBelle

Why would match.com be telling us not to use it ????
What am I missing? 🤔

Sounded genuine to me too. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Me too Juliet27
Just shows how different people read things differently!
...and how we make assumptions based on nothing much.

If you are a bot I do hope you are from the Philippines gigil

Seemed a genuine message from gigi1958 to me.

How can you tell it’s a Chatbot?

Why would match.com be telling us not to use it ????
What am I missing? 🤔

Is match nothing more than a chatbot? I met actual men however, I think a chatbot might have been more interesting!

Really, for goodness sake. Maybe they'll take a few notes from my write up!!