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That is my experience also. Dare I say losers the majority of them.

I could have written your post word for word. I too have given up. There is no man out there that can bring anything to my life and I spent 27 years looking after men and I've had enough. I did try because like you, I wanted to find someone to take care of me for a change after all these years of always putting myself. But they are all incapable of giving a woman anything remotely resembling a relationship. Broke, broken, selfish, lazy. Stay away from me

Catterygirl, that' interesting;
what about the ones who didn't need a visa, who were british nationals, what were they mostly looking for ?

I feel Drawing Down the Moon could be good. They were my competition when I ran Someone Special dating agency in the late 80’s. Glad to hear they are still going.

Running a dating agency gave me an insight into how men think. Some were just looking for a visa from a British woman.

We have a saying, Tina,
Better to be an old man's darling than a young man's slave. 🤣

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Ronayag45 - a friend of mine had some success with a dating agency in London called Drawing Down the Moon. It is quite expensive, but they meet and vet everyone to make sure they are genuine.

After my mother was widowed at 59 (and I was a mere 20 year old) I used to try to encourage her to find someone else. I was concerned about her being alone and she was a very attractive woman.

Her response. "I don't want to look after some bloody old man I barely know".

Now I'm a widow in my mid sixties I know exactly what she meant. Like her I will definitely pass on that one thank you very much.

Two men we know, 40+ and 60+, have found happy new relationships with women through eHarmony.

I’m a widow of 10 years I tried a dating site during the pandemic which in retrospect was pretty pointless, so didn’t bother again until last autumn when I saw that match had an offer of a month’s membership for £4.99 I gave it a try. I had 2 dates one looked older than his photo and the other was so needy, after having 3 disappointing phone calls with other men I gave up.
It was a nightmare try to cancel my subscription before it went up to the premium price it so infuriated me that I will never go back to that awful, complicated, American site again.
Does anyone know of a purely British site? I did try one for the widowed which was depressing. Unfortunately I'm not sure what I want, companionship, love with all that entails or a male friend with benefits…

You have done very well travelsofar I remember when your husband died I would never have believed it to be 3 years ago

After coming to terms with the shock of being widowed 3 years ago in January I have found contentment in my life. I have a wide circle of friends, great family and my marvellous supportive sister. I go to a social group nearly every day, I've had 2 short holidays this year, am moving into a new home on Monday
i can still drive and am financially stable. I would never give all that up for another man. Yes I'm living alone but am never lonely. I'm not remotely interested in find one either.

A friend of mine says at this age all they want is “nurse or purse”! No thanks - my dog is enough for me!!

sodapop my late husband was very needy... he preferred I didn't go out at all without him. I felt confined. I won't put myself in that position again.

After my divorce I had a few relationships before I realised that there were reasons why they were other women’s rejects. I gave up and have enjoyed my very full life where I please myself ever since

That sounds a bit sad lizzypopbottle I've never had to explain anything to my husband. I tell him where I am going and who with because he is interested and its simple courtesy.

Yes gigi1958 I will never have to explain where I'm going, who I'm meeting, when I'll be back and how much I've spent...

You have done what you felt like doing. It's not irreversible, and others will do different things.

None of this needs validation from your peers.

Been on my own now, for over 30 years, go on the occasional date but to be honest I really can’t be bothered.😁
Not being very good at DIY the only thing I need a man for is to put a shelf up. 😏
Married twice, there won’t be a third time 😉
Both very short-lived marriages first one 10 months and I left second 5 years and I left. I really don’t do well in captivity..🙃

Just spent 25 years nursing ….fussing over….picking up after ….worrying over ….being abused by , my stroke affected/ dementing /then Alzheimers husband . After my third stroke he’s finially in full time care ! Oh yes definately want all that over again ….why didn’t i think of it myself!

My (now ex) MIL had a similar experience with a liar, someone who said they were a successful businessman with co-ownership of a company. She was utterly smitten, thought in her 50's she'd found a new love. Discovered he was a coach driver for the company, told her so many lies and it brought her to her knees. Absolutely shook her.

I've heard some of the lies my ex has told and honestly I don't know how you'd trust a guy again ..

My Mum who was widowed in her forties (and left with four youngish children to bring up) used to say " I'd never marry again, as men of my generation want a housekeeper! I don't want to be washing some old man's pants!"

Esmay

My experience of Internet dating is an absolute disaster .

I thought that I'd meet someone wonderful .
How stupid of me !

They were liars - lying about their age /financial situation /abilities , foul mouthed , scruffy , unwashed , drunk , mean with money , calculating , scheming , angry and obsessed with sex .

All of them wanted a doormat .
And here's a woman who isn't going to allow them to wipe their feet on her !

Wonderful and wise words.
I have thought about it, but no, can’t be bothered anymore.
Miss my DH more than I can say, but start again, never

When I first separated from my ex I tried online dating but it seemed most men were just after one thing. I thought I couldn't cope on my own but soon realised I could. I hoped I might meet someone special but after being alone for the same length of time I was married I know which is easier! I have plenty friends and a busy life as well as AC and GC so I don't need anyone. If I did meet someone, who knows, but I'm not expecting it or looking for it any more.

My experience of Internet dating is an absolute disaster .

I thought that I'd meet someone wonderful .
How stupid of me !

They were liars - lying about their age /financial situation /abilities , foul mouthed , scruffy , unwashed , drunk , mean with money , calculating , scheming , angry and obsessed with sex .

All of them wanted a doormat .
And here's a woman who isn't going to allow them to wipe their feet on her !