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Proposing to my partner

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cassy Mon 05-Feb-24 18:32:12

Been with my partner for 7 years and would like to know a good way to propose. I cannot think of anything. And what do I do it with? A ring, a watch?

Hellllllp!

BlueBelle Mon 04-Mar-24 09:08:37

Haha, was this another !!!!

Sparklefizz Mon 04-Mar-24 08:30:03

cassy Did you do it??

NotSpaghetti Mon 04-Mar-24 05:05:59

🤞

Kamj Mon 04-Mar-24 01:25:04

Well 😊suspense is killing me 😜

Germanshepherdsmum Sat 10-Feb-24 12:19:15

Gundy

I did not want to say anything off the bat and throw a wet blanket over it, but many have stated that after seven years and not receiving a proposal from him, has there even been talk of marriage?

Be prepared for his decision! Some men just love their independence, relationship as is and have no plans for marriage. They are totally comfy.

Lizzie44 has it right, adults our age need to get the hard questions and arrangements - homes, wills, bank accounts/finances - out into the open and luckily agreed on first. Then both parties can proceed with trust, joy and happily ever after.

This. Seven years is plenty of time for him to have proposed if he wanted to.

harrigran Sat 10-Feb-24 12:13:13

If marriage hasn't been discussed and you have been married before tread carefully.
Most men I know do not wear watches they just look at their phones.

Seajaye Fri 09-Feb-24 20:09:17

While it does sound romantic idea for a leap year proposal, I would only risk it personally if marriage has been mooted and tacitly agreed to previously.

I have a friend who did the same and she received a question back in response, which was ' aren't we happy as we are? It was designed to dodge her question with no definite response.

They did we eventually get married after his subsequent proposal a couple of years later but she felt more than a tad awkward at the time.

3nanny6 Fri 09-Feb-24 19:19:54

Make a romantic evening and have a lovely cake either you bake or a bought one get some red hearts on it and boldly written get Will you Marry Me on it. Do hope he says yes. It seems their is less love about recently so hope he says yes the more happy love in the world the better. Good luck.

Mamma66 Fri 09-Feb-24 18:37:56

I know you were asking for ideas, but….

DH and I were at a family party, having a most wonderful time. We were dancing together and he whispered in my ear “will you marry me?” He didn’t have a ring, we weren’t having a fancy meal, we weren’t in a romantic venue, but it was one of the happiest moments of my life and a memory I truly treasure. The point I am trying to make is that the memorable and beautiful moment will come from the fact that you are telling him that he is the most important thing in your life and you want to make that commitment. Personally I wouldn’t over think it.

However, as you’ve asked for ideas, what about buying him a fob watch and writing a tiny proposal on a piece of paper asking him to marry you and inserting the paper in the back of the fob watch. You could give him a magnifying glass and say “there’s something inside I want you to read…”

Whatever you do, I wish you every happiness 💐

homefarm Fri 09-Feb-24 18:26:25

If you are happy I wouldn't do it. You need to be prepared for a NO. Consider carefully how you will feel if that happens.

Chocolatelovinggran Fri 09-Feb-24 18:12:34

Some lovely stories and ideas here cassy. I live by the sea and one day I walked along the prom and saw, inscribed in the sand " Will you Marry Me?". On my return trip there was an addendum " yay!" - so I guess s/he said yes. I've witnessed a proposal in St Mark's Square, Venice which produced a round of applause from passers-by. Whatever you choose- good luck. My youngest daughter was with her beloved for fifteen years before the wedding and it was a lovely occasion.

Duvetdiva Fri 09-Feb-24 17:55:05

Some nice ideas. Ignore the snotty ones. Good luck 🤞

Cid24 Fri 09-Feb-24 17:52:51

*Later date!

Cid24 Fri 09-Feb-24 17:52:09

Why don’t you get a “ toy” ring and propose with that? Then you can choose proper rings at a meter date?

margauxbordeaux Fri 09-Feb-24 17:14:15

Gundy

I did not want to say anything off the bat and throw a wet blanket over it, but many have stated that after seven years and not receiving a proposal from him, has there even been talk of marriage?

Be prepared for his decision! Some men just love their independence, relationship as is and have no plans for marriage. They are totally comfy.

Lizzie44 has it right, adults our age need to get the hard questions and arrangements - homes, wills, bank accounts/finances - out into the open and luckily agreed on first. Then both parties can proceed with trust, joy and happily ever after.

This does make alot of sense ..

margauxbordeaux Fri 09-Feb-24 17:10:43

Esmay

What are his likes , hobbies and interests?
I need a prompt !

Extraordinary absolutely.

Grandmama Fri 09-Feb-24 17:00:21

Does he read Gransnet? smile

pascal30 Fri 09-Feb-24 16:20:25

I'd keep it very simple and private.. you could arrange to have a meal cooked and delivered, set up the room to look cosy and romantic and just ask him with love..

Gundy Fri 09-Feb-24 16:18:29

I did not want to say anything off the bat and throw a wet blanket over it, but many have stated that after seven years and not receiving a proposal from him, has there even been talk of marriage?

Be prepared for his decision! Some men just love their independence, relationship as is and have no plans for marriage. They are totally comfy.

Lizzie44 has it right, adults our age need to get the hard questions and arrangements - homes, wills, bank accounts/finances - out into the open and luckily agreed on first. Then both parties can proceed with trust, joy and happily ever after.

Kamj Fri 09-Feb-24 16:11:42

I think it's a lovely idea and I'd go for it, whether it's a simple, silly, or romantic, if it works for you both then it's perfect 😊
Life is too short and at times too sad not to go it, you have nothing to lose and 🤞

Lizzie44 Fri 09-Feb-24 15:24:00

Some of the suggestions sound a bit cliched and cringy to me but only you know what is likely to go down well with your partner. I'd be looking beyond the proposal and the gifts. I'd be thinking about any legal, financial or relationship implications of marriage. Wishing you good luck and happiness with whatever path you choose.

Kamj Fri 09-Feb-24 14:10:03

I would choose a place that's special to you,
Have you any favourite things that's 'your and your partners'

The card factory have lovely pen sets atm in a beautiful box with an inscription on, and inside has a rolled up scroll for own words, and I bought one for my husband on our wedding day and plan to give him one again this anniversary.

I also got a lock engraved one anniversary and when we walked along 'our place' that had a bridge I locked it on without him noticing, I stopped and began reading them to which he did too, he didn't click at first then realised, that was a lovely moment.

I had cufflinks made for wedding, you could have them with an engraving on? On the box I had the words from my first text to him 😊

You could go down the humerus route? Make a sweet ring? Out of foil, grass etc?

I also have a pair of boxers personalised.

Do you have a dog? Could you have a bandana made for dog to wear or a scrolled message tucked in collar?

Could you arrange with the 'special place' to bring out a cake with the words on it?
So many ideas romantic and quirky ❤️

jemma1986 Fri 09-Feb-24 13:58:41

I have known my partner for just over 55 years and will also be proposing on the 29th. I'm making a meal at home and doing the proposal afterwards. He already has a ring which I bought him 3 years ago. You know your partner better than anyone so just do what you feel is right. Best Wishes.

semperfidelis Fri 09-Feb-24 13:54:25

I'm a worrier! If he hasn't given very strong hints about marriage already, I'd do nothing.

heavenlyheath Fri 09-Feb-24 13:45:25

Why bother proposing you been together 7 years why rock the boat and maybe scare him off.xx