How to turn down a wedding invitation for next summer

Sorry, I should have read the whole thread. I see that the OP has decided to go.

I think you are doing the right thing Gingster and I hope you have a lovely day.

He seems to be a nice person and he obviously wants you to go.

Given how many people on here and Mumsnet express feelings of hurt at not being invited to the weddings of close relatives and friends, it seems rather nice to hear of your very different experience.

There are bound to be people there who aren't familiar with the other guests. Personally, I think you should go and hopefully your husband will go with you. As the venue isn't a long distance from you, you could always slip away early.

The poster has already changed her mind and has accepted.

Think the poster is going to accept the invitation.

If you do not want to go, make something as common at our age as not being able to sleep on anything other than your own mattress, or no longer being able to drive long distances (on motorways) or travel by train etc. your reason.

Decline firmly but gracefully, and extend an invitation to the bridegroom to bring his wife for a short visit before the end of next year.

Gingster well done

It is a definite invitation, is it, because this is very early to be sending them out. We had a couple of 'Save the Date' cards sent to us pre-Covid but, of course, the weddings could not take place because of lockdowns. One wedding has in fact taken place this year and we were told it would instead be a very quiet family affair and we didn't get an actual invitation in the end.

David49, Gingster has decided to go after all.

If you really don’t want to be there, just say sorry Ive already got a trip away booked, say where, if you want but no need really

Oh good.
Glad you're going.

have a nice time x

I’ve just sent off my acceptance e mail , so it’s done! 👍

I'm pleased that you have decided to go. Please send some photos next year.

Gingster I am late to this thread, pleased you are going.

Threads like this are why I love Gransnet!
Sensible question, helpfully answered .

Flappergirl, you took the words right out of my mouth. I agree, entirely.

Gingster I came on to say please go without your DH if he’d really be uncomfortable, and I see you’ve decided to do exactly that 🙂
I’m so glad as you are obviously very dear to the family and it will mean a lot to them to have you there.
I hope you enjoy every minute 🙂

You are all so kind with your comments. Thankyou once again. ❤️

Gingster, I didn't comment before but hoped you would choose to go. I think it will mean such a lot to the family.

Perhaps it is their way of thanking you years down the line. Make sure you wear your most favourite outfit and enjoy the day, memories, and photos to look back on.

I’m pleased you have decided to go, as reading between the lines, I think it was only your DH being reluctant that was putting you off.

Have a lovely time, either with him or not.

Gingster - I know it is not really my business but I am pleased you have decided to go. I think he sees you to be someone very important in his life. I'm sure his children do too.

Have a lovely day!

Wishing you a lovely day at the wedding!

Yes, Ive made up my mind, thanks to all your advice and points of view. I will accept the kind invitation and look forward to it. I’ll leave it up to Dh to decide whether to join me or not. I’m quite happy to go alone.

Thanks for taking the time to respond, it really did help. 🙏

I would go solo if your husband is likely to make you on edge. Send your regrets for him, and RSVP for yourself.

You are clearly very cherished by the family and indeed part of their family and shared history.

Go and be part of this next happy chapter. And also what a lovely person you (and they) sound. Not many people step in the midst of grief, rather people disappear, how kind of you to be a substitute mother. Also not many people remember the generosity they were given, but the father sends his appreciation yearly.

Please go and have a lovely time. You must be wanted otherwise they would not have invited you and they think of you every year. Get yourself a new outfit and once there I am sure you will enjoy yourself.