After many years of a poor relationship that caused me a lot of upset over many years, my sister started behaving very rudely and badly to me. I repeatedly asked her not to and did not respond in kind, though to maintain some sort of relationship I did sometimes end up doing what she wanted. We now have no direct contact (even cards etc) which is actually a huge relief and much better for me. I have some intermittent relationship with my adult nieces as she does with one of my adult children - not the other as she has cut off communication with them.
The current problem is she has now contacted me demanding something I happen to have from our family in the past, asking very rudely. I am not sure how best to respond - should I just ignore her as she is so toxic and I don’t think I should have to do as she says? Will this come back to bite me as she might spread more poison about me through the rest of the family? Or is the best ‘adult’ response to send her what she wants with a brief acknowledgement? That might be galling for me just now, but I’d have to get over that. Though also, what else might she then demand? I ideally want to be left alone without any contact with her, though somehow manage to maintain relationships with other family members - as much as possible. However I realise this may well be compromised.
I’d be grateful for others’s ideas and suggestions. Thanks
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