Dating younger men

Oh OP - in your dreams! He may be charming and a flatterer but is very unusual indeed to fancy a 65-year old woman in the way you seem to think he does.
You may think you pass for 40 but it is highly unlikely. My 41year old youngest D was recently refused a bottle of wine at an M&S because she didn’t carry ID. That doesn’t happen in your 60’s!
Perhaps he is gay and you are what is colloquially known as a “beard” -a slang term, American in origin, describing a person who is used, knowingly or unknowingly, as a date, romantic partner (boyfriend or girlfriend) often to deflect attention.
Perhaps he thinks you have money- there have been sad cases of gay older men befriended, fleeced of their savings and in one case I can think of, actually murdered by the lover.
Perhaps he is a natural flirt or charmer.
But don’t kid yourself, there is no fool like an old fool.

I think there are probs some 65 year old women who look 40, but can only think of celebrities who have a lot of ‘help’.
Cher and Lulu looked much younger in their sixties but are not looking like that now, even with everything lifted and filled.

I know someone who loves older women, and he likes them to look their age, too.

Takes all sorts, after all.

I would also be very cautious - he might have a bet going on with some mates - M.I.L.F springs to mind.

Poppyred

Sorry to say, he’s probably after your advice/ wisdom maybe? A 65 year old does not look 40……..

My first thought was 💰. 😂

Babs03

I think there are probs some 65 year old women who look 40, but can only think of celebrities who have a lot of ‘help’.
Cher and Lulu looked much younger in their sixties but are not looking like that now, even with everything lifted and filled.

Quite! And it looks so false!

😬A definite no on so many levels, cradle snatching being a major one.. Why cant he find someone without a 35 year age gap, your old enough to be his grandma.

Without wishing to introduce the “T” word, I think this is either a fantasy or fiction.

I think you're living in a fantasy world.
I wouldn't dream of dating someone with that age gap.

flappergirl

It's a bit of a trend at the moment for younger men to sleep with older women, although not usually with quite such a large age gap. Are you sure you aren't confusing a bit of office banter with genuine romantic interest?

Admits I'd be cynical too now. I'm early 70's - though I've genuinely been assured I look young for my age. I was interested in a couple of men around 50 for a bit - but then realised both are users and their apparent interest in me was of a purely mercenary nature. I also have to be aware that I'm in a part of the country now (West Wales) where a noticeable number of men are in a "relationship" where the man lives in the womans house (ie because he hasn't got one himself - even at that sort of age - rather than being a "young man"). It's notorious amongst women around my age that we notice this a lot in this area. Neither of the younger men I thought were interested in me were really and they were just checking it out to see how much they might be able to get from me (even though my income - from job and State pensions together - just about equates to only National Minimum Wage level).

I find it odd that so many people "draw mental lines" as to who they'd really genuinely be interested in - but I can see that the two men concerned are out to "use" anyone and everyone - of any agegroup.

I'll add that it is hard for those of us that were attractive when we were younger and pretty much able to interest any man we wanted to and it's hard to realise Mother Nature and time have combined to remove that attractiveness. I've from plain to attractive back to plain again with the best will in the world myself.

It's probably a "last fling of the hormones" that happens in the 60's/early 70's of thinking "Maybe we've still Got It" and seeing we've maybe held up our looks better than a lot - but we have to take a realistic assessment of ourselves in the mirror and in what size clothes we're wearing etc and think "Mother Nature is cruel - and she got me too.....". Not nice - but it's even worse to just "get used" for what a man thinks you might provide him with and it also feels seriously wierd when one has come from a generation where men often paid for us when on dates and we certainly never paid for men.

What a lovely day! A young man just told me he loved me and I'm older than the OP. 🙂

Responses are hilarious!! Find a hobby sounds like a LOT of work. Who wants to raise yet another child?😬

Allira

What a lovely day! A young man just told me he loved me and I'm older than the OP. 🙂

Your grandson?

PamelaJ1

Allira

What a lovely day! A young man just told me he loved me and I'm older than the OP. 🙂

Your grandson?

Actually my son 😁

(He's still much younger than me)

The point is, it does happen.
Obviously not to people who have been married for umpteen years, but there is no reason to dismiss it on that basis.

People like all kinds of different situations.

MissAdventure

The point is, it does happen.
Obviously not to people who have been married for umpteen years, but there is no reason to dismiss it on that basis.

People like all kinds of different situations.

Someone I know was with a much older woman for many years (she was about 23 years older) but sadly it ended when she was in her early 60s.

My nan was 19 years older than her husband, and they were fine; he was 2 years younger than her children.

You might end up on channel 5 on one of those documentaries ha,

Mt61

You might end up on channel 5 on one of those documentaries ha,

My friends aunt 81, took up with a 38 yr old, lasted a few years, she would tell us about their love antics, in the revolving, office chair TMI 😝- mind we were all a little jealous 🤣

More fun than knitting.

One of my aunts was 11 years older than her DH. They were happliy married for over 40 years. looking her age or younger did not really come into it.

RosiesMaw2

Without wishing to introduce the “T” word, I think this is either a fantasy or fiction.

Exactly , maybe he has a hairy foot fetish .

MissAdventure

More fun than knitting.

Oh, I don't know!

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