Gay wedding-have you been to one?

Skydancer,you clearly have no idea what you are talking about! You must be ancient to have those outdated ideas!Nothing unnatural about two people being in love,whoever those people are and whatever they look like.

Your posts are sad.

Cossy

My daughter and her beautiful wife got married last month.

Looks quite beautiful 🥂 .

Isn't it good that times have changed? I remember when homosexuality was a crime and young men lived in fear or denial. When I was a teenager I didn't even know that women could be gay and yet I must have been at school with girls who were. I've worked with gay women, know many gay men through my main interest (dressage) been to gay weddings and seen my own daughter's friends come to terms with their sexuality. One of her best friends married her partner, the wedding was featured in Vogue, they both looked absolutely gorgeous. The couple now have a beautiful daughter. I'm so glad that we have a much more honest and open society that allows people to be who they were born to be.

Skydancer

MissInterpreted I feel uncomfortable with the idea of being gay as it is not natural. Also - and I really do not understand this - in a male gay relationship, for example, why is one person effeminate? In a lesbian relationship why is one person quite masculine? If this is what the other partner wants then why not choose someone of the opposite sex?

Ok , so my son isn’t natural !!! That’s an awful thing to say . Being gay isn’t a choice. It’s who you are . And thankfully people today can be themselves .
As for your other stereotypical comments , the majority of gay and lesbians I know are not camp or butch .they’re just living their lives .
Your doctor , dentist , vicar or GC teacher could be gay .

Sorry to see the old-fashioned stereotypes coming out.
I know quite a few gay people as friends who do not fit into this idea of there has to be one effeminate in a male relationship and one masculine in a female relationship. It's a shame that you haven't met any ,Skydancer. People are different in all relationships and it is only by meeting different people that we see how wide is the range.

Skydancer

Well you asked. MissInterpreted! And that’s my view.

I did, and you are absolutely entitled to hold those views. I'm just pointing out that your assumption about gay couples isn't actually correct.

Would people be gay if it wasn't natural? I am not sure how it wouldn't be natural? It's not a side effect of anything, it's been happening since recorded history started

Iam64

I’m amazed to see some posters would refuse to go or would feel uncomfortable

Me too

Well you asked. MissInterpreted! And that’s my view.

Skydancer

MissInterpreted I feel uncomfortable with the idea of being gay as it is not natural. Also - and I really do not understand this - in a male gay relationship, for example, why is one person effeminate? In a lesbian relationship why is one person quite masculine? If this is what the other partner wants then why not choose someone of the opposite sex?

Not natural in whose eyes? And your assumption about gay couples - male or female - is way off the mark. Not all male gay couples have one 'effeminate' partner, nor do all lesbian couples have one 'masculine' partner. That's a very narrow - and very stereotypical - view. Gay couples are just as varied as any other partnership.

MissInterpreted I feel uncomfortable with the idea of being gay as it is not natural. Also - and I really do not understand this - in a male gay relationship, for example, why is one person effeminate? In a lesbian relationship why is one person quite masculine? If this is what the other partner wants then why not choose someone of the opposite sex?

Never have. Doubtful i will.

Yes, i have been to a few, not uncomfortable in any way whatsoever. We were/are delighted to be included in their special day.

I imagine for some people it goes against the natural order of things - my mother found it very difficult to accept a gay relationship within the wider family.

Yes, one of the best I have ever been to.A wonderful day.

That's why I'm curious - for those who would feel 'uncomfortable', is that purely for religious reasons (which is entirely up to them), or are there other reasons?

I’m not religious, but, to be fair I guess some people might think same sex relationships are not acceptable within their religion?

I went to one and there was a wonderful happy atmosphere. Also, the couple had put a lot of thought into the playlist and the music was terrific. We danced all night.

mrsgreenfingers56

Very interesting answers, I asked because a straight male friend was invitied or will be to a gay wedding and he wasn't feeling very comfortable about accepting which I can understand as straight men seem to have more issues accepting gay men.

Very sad, especially in this day and age. Why does he feel this way? Fear of being “pounced” on?

Lisaangel10

It’s very simple, just like straight women, some gay woman are very feminine and some are not. Many, many women dress in “more manly” clothes, whether they are straight or gay.

I know many gay men, some quite camp, but unless they are drag queens in their spare time I’m yet to find one who prefers to dress in a dress. (Aside from those who wear kilts, who could be straight or gay)

It’s certainly not the stereotype that among lesbian couples, one is the girl and one is the bloke!

Very interesting answers, I asked because a straight male friend was invitied or will be to a gay wedding and he wasn't feeling very comfortable about accepting which I can understand as straight men seem to have more issues accepting gay men.

Rosie51

Meant to say cossy didn't your daughter and her wife make a lovely couple! Congratulations to you all.

Thank you x

I’ve never been to one, but would be happy to. My son went to one and said the father of one of the grooms was obviously uncomfortable, though he tried to hide it.

It’s interesting how attitudes have changed in my lifetime (I’m 84). When I was young, gay relationships were against the law - not that that prevented them - and the idea of a gay wedding would have been astonishing. Many people honestly thought it was morally wrong to be gay. My parents, especially my father, would have been horrified if I or my brother had turned out to be gay. Even as a teenager I could see that it was a perfectly valid way of life, that the law was ridiculous, and that ‘love is love’.

MissInterpreted

For those who say they wouldn't go because it would make them uncomfortable, can I ask why it would make you feel that way? I've not having a go, honestly - if you feel that way, fair enough - but I am genuinely curious as to why you would feel uncomfortable about it.

That’s how I feel about my earlier question. genuinely interested and curious.

Why when two women get married one very often dresses as a man, suit, tie, brogues etc. but I have never seen a man marrying a man but dressing as a woman.

Hope you get an answer to your question.

I agree with those who say that love is to be celebrated whether it's a marriage between two people of the same or of opposite sexes. There certainly isn't enough love in the world, and so we should support it wherever it is to be found!

I've never been to a gay wedding because I don't know anyone who would have one (except a friend's DGD, who isn't in a steady relationship) but would be happy to do so if invited.

It did occur to me that we are so lucky that so many people are happy to consider this subject positively now. It isn't that long ago that the idea of gay weddings wouldn't have been contemplated by anyone.