Gay wedding-have you been to one?

For those who say they wouldn't go because it would make them uncomfortable, can I ask why it would make you feel that way? I've not having a go, honestly - if you feel that way, fair enough - but I am genuinely curious as to why you would feel uncomfortable about it.

I would not feel comfortable so I wouldn't go.

All weddings are wonderful celebrating love

Being honest, 10 years ago I would have felt uncomfortable. I didn't know anyone who was gay and demonstrations of affection between same sex couples were seldom seen on screen - and when they were it was usually seen as shocking. Now I still don't personally know anyone who is gay, but same sex relationships are so visible on Tele and not made an issue of - even in adverts - that they have become commonplace and if I was invited to a gay wedding it wouldn't discomfort me at all.

Yes we went to the wedding of one of our daughters school friends and her wife.

An absolutely wonderful day celebrating the love of two lovely people.

MissAdventure

Yes, that's part of it, and the other is the religious side, as I have no belief in any of that.

I don't like dressing up, either.

I'm a real misery, in fact, come to think of it.

No! You’re def not a “real misery” You bring a smile to my face so often!

paddyann54

Why insist on saying “Gay”wedding? It’s no different to other weddings ,it really irritates me just as much as when my lovely niece and her long time fiancé were refused permission to marry in a church they had worked tirelessly for for two decades.
It’s just two people exchanging vows ,what they do behind closed doors makes no difference to the vows or to anyone else .

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G. A. Y is an acronym.
Meaning Good As You.

Source... The Acronym Dictionary.

I haven't attended a GAY wedding but have GAY friends with whom I stay regularly. They are in a Civil partnership. I'm completely relaxed and comfortable when sharing their home with them. When one of them was seriously ill the GAY community rallied round (as did heterosexual friends, myself included ) offering tremendous love and support.
Thankfully in this country at least, the days of 'The love that dare not speak its name' are long gone.

I've been to 2 gay weddings, a Mr and Mr and a Mrs and Mrs and they were glorious!

One of my nephews is gay and one great nephew so been to two. They were both very low key affairs. One couple had been civil partners for years and took the opportunity to marry once the law was introduced. Never had any problem with these occasions.

When I got my first flat back in the 1960s I realised the two young men who lived next door were gay and we became friends. My current cleaner is a gay man. Gay men are often very good at housework. I hate it.

Although I am heterosexual Ive had several friendships with gay men during my life. I always felt I did not have to "perform being a woman" in such relationships.

Yes, that's part of it, and the other is the religious side, as I have no belief in any of that.

I don't like dressing up, either.

I'm a real misery, in fact, come to think of it.

MissAdventure

Yes, it involved exactly the same as a straight wedding, except it was less boring, and nobody dressed up, which suited me just fine.
Bride one wore a dress from her wardrobe, bride two wore denim shorts and a t shirt from her wardrobe.

What is boring?? Oh you mean traditional, where bride groom and families dress up for the occasion. Wear their best to pay respect!!

Everyone is entitled to their opinion - just as others are entitled to disagree with that opinion. If someone doesn't wish to attend a gay wedding, that's their choice - doesn't mean I have to agree with that choice or approve or it.

Shelflife

Our son married his husband two years ago. A sunny day in every respect. Love is love ! and a ' gay wedding ' is simply a wedding

Exactly Shelflife. My lovely daughter married the love of her life. It was a beautiful day, shared with family and friends. I love my daughter in law, she’s kind and gentle and has made my daughter so happy.
Being “gay” isn’t a choice. My daughter struggled with it and suffered dreadfully with depression for most of her young life. Thank God that she’s happy at long last.

Seems not everyone can have an opinion, I attended a gay wedding but I respect those who don’t wish to

Nanna8 gives the reason why some people might feel uncomfortable. It’s a valid one, and presumably if you felt that way you wouldn’t attend.

I note the OP hasn't returned. Perhaps the posts were generally not to their liking? I have been a witness at a Civil Partnership of two very good friends. It made me happy to be part of the occasion and certainly not uncomfortable. Sadly one of them died suddenly a couple of years ago. I am glad that they lived in a time when they could be openly happy.

Our son married his husband two years ago. A sunny day in every respect. Love is love ! and a ' gay wedding ' is simply a wedding.

Yes, i have. It was a lovely event, and no different from any other wedding I've been to.

I’m amazed to see some posters would refuse to go or would feel uncomfortable

I have not been to a gay wedding.
I would not feel comfortable.

I wouldn’t go personally as I think a wedding is between a man and a woman. I would go if it was just to celebrate their friendship and commitment to each other. I would wish them all the best and all happiness .

I went to one thirteen years ago and loved it because it was lovely. It was the wedding of my son and his partner and took place at Cowdray Park, which was a fantastic venue since it was a beautiful Spring day. Pre ceremony drinks in the walled garden, then the ceremony, and the gorgeous reception. The first dance was fantastic, I wish I could show you, danced to the Jungle Book song ‘I wanna be like you’ and choreographed by my son’s partner who is an actor trained in acting, song, and dance (he has a fantastic voice.) All the beautiful table decorations, cake, and flowers were in Spring colours, yellow and green. They had beautiful suits and cravats and looked so happy. The whole thing was gorgeous, the speeches funny, the flowers beautiful, and the grooms handsome. I loved it.

Now they have a twelve year old son, adopted, and a dog, and beautiful homes, and are just like any other married couple. They come and go to our home just as we expect all our children to do.

Incidentally my son’s four grandparents, all in their middle eighties, attended, and were happy and not remotely uncomfortable. Why would they be? This was their beloved grandchild getting married. Sadly they’ve all died now and are very much missed.

Congratulations Cossy and what lovely seahorses seadragon.

I went to one a few years ago and it was so joyful. It was wonderful to see them so happy and united in marriage .
I don't think anyone felt uncomfortable, but quite the opposite.
If someone did feel uncomfortable, as is their right of course, then they wouldn't attend the wedding probably.