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Horti Wed 30-Oct-24 23:36:00

Anyone else get this ?
Retired DH just wants to talk about his own day and activities

Turns most conversations to himself with most people

Never asks about my day /activities

Gets jealous if he thinks I’m having a better time and sulks /won’t communicate

Usually I don’t bother sharing good stuff anymore with him

I think this is sad

Doodledog Thu 31-Oct-24 00:05:40

It is.

Do you have other friends?

Have you tried talking to him about it?

What would you like to do about it? Whether it seems feasible or not, if you could wake up tomorrow with it sorted, what would tomorrow look like?

NotSpaghetti Thu 31-Oct-24 01:53:59

Is he recently retired?
Maybe he's struggling to adapt.
I would want to know if he was OK.
Are you worried about him?

denbylover Thu 31-Oct-24 04:21:05

This habit is a learned behaviour. He needs a prod, gentle or otherwise when he once again starts talking about himself, that he’s not the only one on the planet!

It is sad to read you don’t bother communicating very much with him, but I can see why. Pull him up when he starts, perhaps walking away might make him think?

mum2three Thu 31-Oct-24 05:42:49

Don't pander to him, or it will just get worse. Too many retired men want to be the centre of their wive's attention. Just make it clear that you have no time for self-obsessed miseries.

Horti Thu 31-Oct-24 06:42:19

It’s a behaviour that’s been going on for a long time but the pettiness is worse
He’s always craved attention
I used to be far more shy and retiring in the past so probably went along with it
When a conversation is of no interest to him ( with anyone ) he will talk over them and bring it back to him
Yes I have lots of friends and try to be very active with hobbies etc
He also has hobbies but is less social these days
He has had health issues which I’m sympathetic about
Tbh it gets embarrassing sometimes in company and people switch off and describe him as boring

downtoearth Thu 31-Oct-24 07:48:37

You could be describing my brother, he has alienated his immediate family who avoid him, my SIL goes out and looks after their grandchildren, the only one who listens is me, and I am selective when I answer the call.

Astitchintime Thu 31-Oct-24 08:00:21

You could be describing my ex.......when he spoke you had to listen - no one else could have an opinion - he was always right and it became embarrassing so I stopped socialising with him because he alienated so many of our mutual friends.

Shelflife Thu 31-Oct-24 09:00:02

He won't ever change. Keep up your own social life , if he sulks - so be it! You have obviously grown in confidence over the years and he finds that difficult - tough !! Try and talk to him about this , but I doubt it will change things. I am sorry you are going through this , my only suggestion is do what's necessary at home and continue to enjoy the activities you love. Your contacts out of the home are important and if your DH doesn't like it that's his problem , don't be confrontational just say goodbye and go! I wish you well , look after yourself. 💐

Horti Thu 31-Oct-24 12:40:15

Yes I think it’s how he is
I have more fun doing all my other external hobbies these days