My granddaughter is too attached to me

I remember being young and not wanting to be around men other than my dad and grandad. It got better as I got older.

Just to be safe, I would want to meet or observe the man working at her nursery school.

Viceversa. That's your choice, not theirs, but as they knew no different, they accepted being in nursery that young. When a child is older, they should have some say and it's important the main caregiver respects the child's feelings if they aren't keen on a nursery environment. I was in nursery from aged 9 months (from what I was told). I remember feeling like just a number from a young age and wish I had my mother to myself.

Skydancer

Catterygirl

Our next door neighbours really struggle to get their 18 month old to go where he is sent to every day. He cries the place down. I do think 50’s housewives had the best time at home with their children.

Agree with this. Parents today seem to put their children into nursery at too young an age. Personally I would never have wanted anyone else to change my baby’s nappy or put him down to sleep.

Each to their own. As I said, both of mine went to nursery at three months old when I went back to work and it worked well for all of us. I would have gone mad being stuck at home with babies or toddlers all day every day.

I would think because at the monent you are doing the parents role,

Catterygirl

Our next door neighbours really struggle to get their 18 month old to go where he is sent to every day. He cries the place down. I do think 50’s housewives had the best time at home with their children.

Agree with this. Parents today seem to put their children into nursery at too young an age. Personally I would never have wanted anyone else to change my baby’s nappy or put him down to sleep.

Our next door neighbours really struggle to get their 18 month old to go where he is sent to every day. He cries the place down. I do think 50’s housewives had the best time at home with their children.

When she was little my daughter would never kiss her father not even when she was going to bed, he used to feel hurt, but it didn’t last long she is now 50 and always been a daddys girl

Ismoving in with you a new arrangement? Is she just feeling unsettled? I suggest you try to leave this to mum and dad. Have they got space to be a family unit without being with you all the time? Maybe separate meal times would let them bond as a unit.

When my grandson came to live with me ( family emergency) I got him into the local nursery, this was 2 months ago at 1st he was clingy and tearfully which lasted 2 weeks but after making new friends he loves it there now ,now I have trouble at 11am when it's home time and he wants to stay

Neither of my children, nor my GS, were in the least bit clingy, probably because they all went to nursery from a very early age. My two were at nursery from three months. My niece, on the other hand, was the clingiest child imaginable - almost stuck to her mother with velcro.

A lot of little girls go through a phase of ignoring their male relatives, or men in general. They grow out of it.

And in my experience, all small children make a fuss about being "left" at day-care, or nursery-school. They would rather be at home, which is natural after all. Anyone who works in a day-care or a nursery, or nursery-school, or teaches the first year of school will tell you that these children are usually perfectly happy about being there as soon as whichever adult who brought them is out the door again.

You can be certain that if a child is upset longer than "normal" that a good nursery will be in touch with you.

Encourage your granddaughter gently by all means to hand things to her grandpa or daddy or give them a message from you, but don't force the issue.

The next thing you know, she will be distributing her smiles to all the men in the family and ignoring you and her mother.

My DGD hated her nursery but had been very happy previously with her Childminder. I took her in to nursery one day and 4 little boys were standing quietly around a table playing nicely with toy models. Then a male nursery worker marched up to them and shouted at them to sit down in the chairs around the table and they were not allowed to stand there! I knew why she didn't like nursery then but I never saw him again and presume he left or was sacked. But the damage was done and DGD hated that nursery the whole time she was there.

Perfectly natural to feel more secure with you and your daughter. Perhaps she is just a mummy's/nanny's girl. Does she need to go to nursery? It might not suit her.

Oh we have a similar issue with our youngest DGD, except it’s usually DH she clings to when her parents arrive to take her home. She calms down quickly once she realises that she’s going home and she’s lost the battle.

The funny thing is I was exactly the same with Gran and my mum came to take me home. My DD was the opposite she cried when we left her on her with her DGM, and when we arrived to take her home she used to pull us out the door. My DMil said once we had left she settled down and had a great time with her. Children are so unpredictable at times.

A lot of little children do this in some form or another, then one day they stop it.

We had another version of this when DS would go to anyone, providing he was at home. He would not settle, sleep or do anything but cry in anyone elses house but the one we lived in., so for about 6 months we were more or less housebound so that he could sleep at home every night and play in the house during the day..

Children do things like this and there is no epxlanation.

It’s quite normal, you haven’t said how old she is but I’m guessing under 3.

It’ll pass and it is upsetting.