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AGAA4 Tue 25-Feb-25 11:19:04

It is very hard to see our friends die or deteriorate. Two friends have died recently and one has gone into a home with dementia.
It reminds us that time is passing and we have to enjoy every day.

kittylester Tue 25-Feb-25 11:16:23

I feel your pain, Maw. And I do hope I am not the same. Though I wonder if anyone would say!

I have a lovely friend who has to keep double/triple checking our arrangements. And, she sees non-existent complications - unless they do exist and I've not spotted them.

Lona Tue 25-Feb-25 11:15:31

Maw I am in the same situation with two of my close friends and I find it quite difficult too, as I’m not known for my patience!
My mother’s favourite saying to me …. “Patience is a virtue Lona”

Claremont Tue 25-Feb-25 11:12:17

Oh I so agree. I have lost all my very best friends, bar two who are much younger- in last few years. I find it hard too. And others are suffering terminal illness, or as you say, becoming confused and forgetful.

And yes, it saddens and worries me too.

We do a lot of volunteer work with the local 'elderly'- some younger than us. And we have seen such a change in them, and lost so many, that it makes us very aware of our own ageing process.

RosieandherMaw Tue 25-Feb-25 11:04:17

Two friends, sharp as a tack up till now, are starting to show signs of forgetfulness, anxiety, fussing about arrangements etc but not in a self- deprecating way, the way most of us do.
(“If I’d half a brain I’d be dangerous”)
It saddens and worries me.
Yes, I know it comes to us all
Yes, I may sound like that myself (but try not to) sometimes
But
It is a dreadful reminder of anno domini (not the GN Gran!)
and I’m not handling it very well.