My boyfriend's mom is manipulating and guilt tripping him into trying to break up with me and keep him from moving in with me.

If it is that his mother is able to control him like this then it sounds like very deep rooted behaviour which you are not going to be able to change. I also agree with others that he may be using his mother as an excuse to keep you at a distance. Either way it sounds like he is scared and avoidant of making his own decisions, it doesn’t sound like he is a mature grownup who takes responsibility for himself. I think if you stay in it much longer then down the line in the future when you do realise this isn’t going anywhere you’ll regret having wasted so much of your life on him. .

You say you thought you and his mum were getting on well in which case my first thought is to question whether your boyfriend is actually telling the truth or if he's using problems with his mum to avoid moving in with you.
If his mum is actually manipulating him then she will always be a problem in your lives but the bigger problem is that he doesn't stand up to her.
Either way I would suggest cut and run, find someone else asap.

My thoughts exactly! He is trying to dump you. Sorry, but he’s too cowardly to tell you himself and is using dear mummy as an excuse.
Walk!

I'd walk away and find a real man !

Why is she supporting him at 26?
What financial contribution would he be able to make if he moved in with you?

He says he can’t afford to leave his mother who helps him financially. Presumably he would be expected to contribute more if he moves in with you and just doesn’t like the idea.

Good point Smileless

Or maybe he's making it up as as an excuse not to move in
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Just leave them both to it, you're not a baby sitter, he's supposed to be an adult, surely he can make some sort of his own financial arrangements? He's mum sounds like she's totally full of herself.

Find someone who isn't still clinking to mummy's apron strings!

It’s up to him of course, but in my view much too soon to be moving in with you. Why the rush?

Jaxjacky

Easter holidays 😴

My thoughts too Jaxjacky...............either that or someone is writing a trashy romance novel and wants some free research.

Easter holidays 😴

His relationship with his mother is unlikely to change so my advice is to move on.

Honestly, it sounds as though you’re the Other Woman.

I’m not saying there’s anything sexually inappropriate, but he and his mother seem to have a really unhealthy dynamic, in which she is his priority and views other women as a threat. And he enables it, because his life is easier that way.

Run now.

You deserve someone who makes you a priority.

At 26 and only been in the relationship a few months why on earth are you talking about him moving in with you
You are pushing this much too fast let things swing along no wonder his mum s got her antenna up
Why are you on a granny site at 26 years old I wouldn’t dream of coming on a group like this when I was 26 would even know about it

I m not sure this isn’t one of ‘those posts’ from US

Do you really want to live with someone who is financially and emotionally dependant on his Mum.... at the age of 26?

This isn’t about his mother. He’s old enough to make his own choices. He isn’t choosing you. If he wanted to move in with you he would. If he wanted to see more of you he would.

Walk away.

If he is struggling to "cut ties" with his mother now it won't get easier.

I think he will continue to live with his mother whatever you say.

Keep him just as a friend and find someone else to love. He will never be truly yours.

You say you've been dating for a few months. It's much too soon to think about moving in with each other anyway.

Walk away and don’t look back. You’ll not be the one to change his mind and you deserve a mature relationship with someone who puts you first.

As said up thread it really shouldn’t be this difficult Don’t settle just to have someone on your arm that way leads to unhappiness.

It sounds like he does not want to live without his mother’s financial support or without her approval. It’s unlikely you can change this. Don’t waste any more time on something you can’t change and take Grandmabsttys advice.

I agree with GMB, she will always be there trying to manipulate him. What happens if you make the relationship permanent? No mother should make her child choose between her and a partner.
Your boyfriend needs to man up!

It shouldn't be this difficult. Walk away and find someone else.